preparing to test

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Registered: 10-18-2011
preparing to test
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Mon, 10-31-2011 - 1:35pm
So tomorrow is the big day, testing day! This is my first month ttc #2 and I am a nervous wreck! I know the odds of conceiving your first try are slim but it can happen. I've had plenty of symptoms but of course that doesn't mean much. Im trying to mentally prepare myself for a possible pfn but as the spoiled only child/eternal optimist I am its hard to imagine any outcome but the one I want! I keep trying to tell myself this is only the first month, I didn't do much in the way of tracking, and ideally hubby and I would love to be due between july-november so there is plenty of chances for that but seeing a bfn is like a test screaming "YOU FAILED". So here is my question, how do you ladies prepare for testing day mentally and physically as well as how do you cope with a bfn?
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Registered: 02-12-2010
Mon, 10-31-2011 - 3:06pm

I have yet to test this time around (TTC#1, 2nd attempt - lost job during last 9 month attempt decided then was not a good time). I thought I was pregnant that go around as I was on CD40 before AF appeared. Took two tests and a blood test (all BFN). I was certain that was the time... especially considering that I lost my job I figured I had a good chance of getting pg since we tried so hard before that and of course things happen when they seem least "convenient." I, like you, am very optimistic but also, depending on the BD scheduling and my temps, O date and the like, very realistic. I think you can be realistic with yourself those times when timing and such just were not right, it happens. I think those are the months I am prepared for a BFN (albeit still hopeful for an unexpected BFP). A BFN during an "optimistic month" is harder but I think optimism keeps us in the game. Without it, we would give up, so I say "here's to optimism!!!" I hope this is your month. Baby dust of course and I want to hear an update on that test! :)

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Registered: 03-01-2011
Mon, 10-31-2011 - 7:06pm
Eek! I'd be turning the mute button on that hpt!! Lol -if I heard angry hpt's hollering about what a failure I was throughout these past 14 cycles I'd be locked up in the loony bin ;)

The bottom line is ttc sucks. The chances every month suck, even with perfect timing *but* people get knocked up all the time so you just have to hope for the best & move onto the next cycle if this one isn't it. We all want it so much & that's why we persevere.

Fx'd you're one of the lucky ones...
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Registered: 10-18-2011
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 8:07am
Well folks it was a bfn :(I maybe next month.
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Registered: 10-02-2011
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 12:29pm
Sorry:(
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Registered: 02-12-2010
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 12:51pm

Awww so sorry to hear that. :(

A new cycle, a new start!

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Registered: 10-18-2011
Tue, 11-01-2011 - 3:28pm
Its ok, still no af yet so I guess we'll see and if so there is always next month.