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Fri, 04-01-2011 - 9:39pm
So I posted back in feb. about my cousin anouncing she was pg on the very same day I found out I had a chemical pg. Well today she went to the er because she was bleading at 10 wks and found out she was
miscarring :(
Now I feel really guilty for being so jelouse and not as happy for her as I should have been. And then I think well what if this is our month......it will be tough telling the family in the wake of this and so harsh of a thing for her to have to deal with :( I'm just really sad for her right now. For those of you who believe in prayer, please remember her in your prayers.
Thanks,
Lucy
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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Fri, 04-01-2011 - 10:25pm

Aww, Lucy...that's is an awful situation.

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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 12:53am
Oh I am so sorry for your familys loss that is so hard. I knwo I had an experiance like that with my son. My SIL was going through FT and had just had her last and final IVF and it had come out BFN. she was a wreck and like a month or two later I found out I was pregnant. It was so hard to tell her and she didn't talk to me for a very long time cause she just couldn't deal with my pregnancy. eventually she came around and found it in herself to be happy for me and in the end I asked her to come and be at the birth of our son and it was a great experience for all of us.
I know that if it is your month it will be hard but it will all be okay in the end

Good Luck...
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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Sat, 04-02-2011 - 1:16am

I am truly sorry for you cousins loss, its such a horrifying thing to experience. Don't feel guilty though, you were justified in your feelings at the time. Just think, you will be able to help her through this some having experience it yourself...

Take care, she is in my prayers...

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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Sun, 04-03-2011 - 7:46pm
Thanks for your prayers ladies! I really don't know what I'd do with out y'all. :)
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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Tue, 06-28-2011 - 11:34pm

I'm sorry for your loss and I'm sorry for her loss. I've had a loss in 2009 and it was really devastating. Don't beat yourself up over how you felt about her being pregnant. It's real easy to get jealous over someone when they have something you want real bad. By no means does it make you a bad person. In fact it just makes you human. It's not your fault she lost her baby. Forgive yourself and let it go. Your time will come again, and so will hers. Good luck to you both.

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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 8:26am
Awe I'm sorry Lucy! *Big Hugs* to you and your family.

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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 9:45am
Don't beat yourself up for even a moment. Your feelings at the time were valid. And now you know exactly what she is going through, so you can be her shoulder to lean on. Good luck to you and your family as you heal. :)
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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 11:01am

Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way....Please dont blame yourself for any negative feelings you have ttc - I think it brings out so many feelings we later regret but really we should just embrace how human we all are and allow ourselves to feel as we do in the moment.

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In reply to: lucyinthesky2007
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 11:49am
Lucy, I am sorry for your cousin's loss. Miscarriage is awful, but in most cases it can't be controlled.

It is natural to be jealous when someone achieves something that you want so badly. All you can do now is be there for her. Since you have been through the same thing I'm sure that when you get your BFP you will handle telling her with respect and compassion.

Hugs & Positive Thoughts,
Laura
ME 34 SO 31 TTC #1 since September/08 First appointment with RE October/10 HSG November/10 - Left tube blocked Unblocked March 17/11 Fimbriae are gone though SA December/10 - 1% Morphology Swim Up SA January 2011 - Morphology is 13% doctor says is