Am I a bad person???

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Registered: 06-11-2009
Am I a bad person???
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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:38pm

Okay so I visit this ttc board and another.

Lisa

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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 5:01pm
Hey Lisa...you aren't a bad person at all. That does suck they don't have an alternate place to post BFP's. One of the things you said really reminds me of how I am feeling..."Then I read someone else got their BFP and I feel like I suddenly have all this pressure on myself to get my BFP this month and the excitement of O'ing seems to be replaced by desperation". Last month was only our first month trying but I felt A LOT of pressure to get that first try BFP. Mostly because I had a friend that was SUPPOSEDLY going to start trying in June and so I agreed to wait until then so we could try together. Well she didn't tell me they had been trying since January and got PG in March. I was devastated. My excitement of starting TTC turned to desperation. I still have problems letting go of the anger and hurt towards her. It is only natural of us to want what we want...and to hurt when other's get that. Know that we will get our BFP's...try not to stress because that will just make things harder. Maybe quit visiting the other board for a while? I'm so sorry :(
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Mon, 07-06-2009 - 8:53am

Just wanted to let you both know you are not alone.


When you want something so badly and others have what you want it is sometimes difficult to stomach. I have been trying for about 15 months now.. and one of my very good friend was going to start trying in July. Yeah, she got pg in June.. I would say it was on the first try but they weren't even trying! I had a small freak-out and now I am very happy for them - but feel extreme pressure to get pg now since she wants (and I want) for us to be pg together. Luckily, she is a great person and is sensitive to me about it.


Personally, that's what stings the most (when it doesn't take long and

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Tue, 07-07-2009 - 6:00pm
So true!
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Thu, 07-09-2009 - 10:59am

Hi Lisa,


I totally understand what you are saying, I'm sorry that the other board doesn't have a separate folder.

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Registered: 06-11-2009
Thu, 07-09-2009 - 8:43pm

Thank you ladies for your support.

Lisa

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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 2:21pm

I TOTALLY understand, Lisa. Usually, I really appreciate all of the advice that recently preggers posters can provide (on their TTC experience, early pg symptoms, etc.) but sometimes I think, "THIS IS THE TTC BOARD! YOU HAVE ABOUT 15 EXPECTING BOARDS THAT YOU CAN JOIN NOW. I DON'T WANT TO SEE YOUR PREGNANCY TICKERS WITH THE BEAUTIFUL PICS OF BABIES AND DUE DATES THAT I WILL NEVER SHARE. GO AWAY!!!"...not to cyber-shout...but that's just how I feel...sometimes...like now...

Amanda


Mom to Jackson b. March 13, 2007


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