Baby envy

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Baby envy
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Mon, 09-13-2010 - 8:08pm
I am finding myself very upset over the latest delivery of a childhood acquaintance of mine - one of those people who you would always think would be an unstable parent. I have been TTC#1 for 11 months (on 9th cycles). It seems like everyone I went to school with has or is expecting a family and I am getting increasingly envious of them. I am trying to keep my stress levels down, but it is like everyone's baby news is being shoved down my throat (facebook is really starting to become a bad thing in my life)! I want more than anything to give DH a baby. He would be such an amazing dad - absolutely everyone who knows him thinks that. Anyway, I am sorry to be complaining, but I just had to vent to someone.
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In reply to: littlecatlady
Mon, 09-13-2010 - 9:41pm
I know so many people that I DON'T like who are having babies and it breaks my heart. I can't imagine if it were someone I DID like.
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In reply to: littlecatlady
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 10:10am
Well, she was one of those people I knew, but didn't like. She is kind of nasty and manipulative - at least she was. I just feel like it's being shoved down my throat and is driving me crazy!
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In reply to: littlecatlady
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 12:19pm
I know how your feeling. Facebook has been my devil lately. I've been TTC # 2 now for 22 months... it's frustrating and super discouraging. I have friends who got PG with children they didn't even really want, and we have to try to hard. Last week I found out DH's brother and wife are PG with #3 - the month following her getting her IUD taken out... everyone seems to be posting "I'm pregnant" and I just break down. Im getting to where it's hard to deal... I just need to focus on the important things!
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Registered: 01-13-2010
In reply to: littlecatlady
Wed, 09-15-2010 - 2:02pm
I know what you mean by Facebook not helping us in the TTC game. My cousin just posted an album of her daughter's 1 year pictures. She is so adorable and I love both of them it's just... hard to look at a little. *sigh* We will have our day!!!!



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Registered: 09-21-2010
In reply to: littlecatlady
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 11:40pm
I know exactly what you mean, and I feel the same way. For almost two years now, I've been trying to get pregnant... there is nothing in this world that I want more than to be a mom. Honestly, it does seem like some people rub it in my face. My best friend just had her first baby in May... she's four months old, and the most beautiful baby I've ever seen. However, she doesn't have the best parents. My friend sits on her butt all day and orders her mom and siblings around, to change the diaper, make a bottle, clean up a mess, etc. And get this... her husband is worse! Yes, he works for a living. He supports his family by working 40 hours a week, but he throws a fit when he has to leave his XBox 360 for a half hour to feed his child. He whines when my friend asks him to take the baby to the store with him, he sleeps until 4pm, and flips
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In reply to: littlecatlady
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 8:22pm
Yeah it is a crappy situation all around. I am really getting tired of the "facebook moms" who post stuff like "today is daughters day, post this if you have the most amazing daughter in the world". Honestly, who bothers to post this?
We have decided not to tell anyone we're trying except my sister, who has been awesome! I thought that if people knew then the would always be asking me about it and I really don't want it to be the focus of my life, especially since it isn't working out in our favour. So, whenever someone hears about a new pregnancy, I am always asked when we are planning on starting, or that we should try for a baby, etc. My only saving grace is my sister. It was hard as hell, but we told her recently and she has been amazing. It also helps to vent here ;)
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In reply to: littlecatlady
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 8:40am

>>>> We have decided not to tell anyone we're trying except my sister, who has been awesome! I thought that if people knew then the would always be asking me about it and I really don't want it to be the focus of my life, especially since it isn't working out in our favour. So, whenever someone hears about a new pregnancy, I am always asked when we are planning on starting, or that we should try for a baby, etc. My only saving grace is my sister. It was hard as hell, but we told her recently and she has been amazing. It also helps to vent here ;) <<<<

I know exactly how you feel, littlecatlady. Facebook is a pain, yet hard to stay away from lol. And I too am sick of everyone else announcing their pregnancies and I still haven't been able to.

I have told some people that we are trying and it has become like you've said. Most of the time they ask how things are going as an opener to our conversations. Thankfully most of them understand that if I say I don't want to talk about it, I don't want to talk about it and they drop the subject. I've only 'lost' one friend over it. :( And I have mixed emotions on that one.

Good luck to you and fingers crossed.





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Registered: 09-02-2010
In reply to: littlecatlady
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 4:40pm

I know exactly how you feel... It was horriable when we were TTC #1. Everyone I knew was pregnant. Our best friends told us they were expecting and I started crying at dinner... I was so happy but so upset at the same time.. Shortly after we FINALLY got BFP after a year or more...



Now we are TTC #2 and on our 8th month.. Why is it the people who probably shouldn't have kids can do it so easily?



Best of luck to you all!!

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