Big ugly green monster

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Big ugly green monster
Sat, 05-31-2003 - 11:30am
Yep, it's definitely showing now.

When my last baby was born, my SIL was expecting her first. I delivered in June, she delivered in August. Since it was my 4th and her 1st, she got more attention (because every symptom, etc. was SO dramatic for her). Then when my niece came, she gets more attention- which I can deal with.

But now SIL is expecting twins, and I started thinking I don't want to pg the same time as her again! I can't compete with twins, and this baby(should we be blessed) would take 3rd billing this time around. It totally stinks. I know it's not completely rational to think, but I know my inlaws and it's not far from the truth. Ugghhh...I HATE feeling jealous!!


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Sat, 05-31-2003 - 7:54pm
Hugs to you Stacey. I have a few people in my life that I'd rather not share pgcy with too - for very similar reasons. So I think you're pretty "normal" as that goes, even if it feels lousy to feel that way!


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Mon, 06-02-2003 - 2:16pm
I can completely relate!!! My SIL announced she was prg. with #3 the very same day I delivered #1 when she came to visit in the hospital! My DH thought I was a little silly for being peeved.

I know it feels lousy, but it is very normal.

Best of luck.

(((((((((hugs)))))))))) Jen

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Mon, 06-02-2003 - 6:23pm
Thank ou for posting! I totally feel this way, and I thought I was the only one! After almost 10 years of dating, we set a wedding date 1.5 years out. After 6 months had gone by my older bother and girlfriend got engaged and *then* got married in August 2002, 2 months ahead of us!!

Everything was centered around them. We totally got second billing on everything. They tried to say that they had to ge married so that they could have kids right away. She's on one wacky diet after another, so they're not trying yet.

We set this month for starting to try. I can just imagine them jumping into this all, just a month or so after we do. I hate feeling this way, but darn it, I do.

Mary, Mama to Gavin, Derek, and Tyler