DH having problems :( Suggestions?

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DH having problems :( Suggestions?
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 11:45am

We have been ttc for 7 months now. My DH was all excited the first few cycles but


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Registered: 08-20-2009
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 12:27pm

Alicia, I know in our buddy-to-buddy group I mentioned this has been a problem for my partner in the past.

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Registered: 08-12-2009
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 1:16pm

Yep I have been there too Alicia.


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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 4:26pm

We've had this problem in the past.... especially last cycle. It was bad timing, anyway, because of the holidays and travel, but the stress definitely got to DH and he was only able to finish 2 out of the maybe 8 times we tried around O time. Very disappointing for both of us, but I try hard to relax & brush it off--- especially for his sake. Stressing him about about it/showing how stressed you are won't help :\ Try to relax & make BD fun and less pressure.... it's difficult, but it's for the best.

I'd be interested to see what advice people have for this. It's a problem I'd love to solve!! :)


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Registered: 11-05-2004
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 6:41pm
(((((Alicia))))) The only thing I can think of, is don't even tell him your Oing, just BD.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 2:38pm

I've seen alot of the women on the boards keep their dh's in the dark about the whole ttc process, that telling them too much makes it too stressful on them.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 10:49am

I don't have any vitamin suggestions.

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 1:06am

My DH has this problem as well sometimes. What we do is he goes ahead and ejaculates into a plastic cup which I then aspirate into a syringe and he injects the syringe into me. I know it's totally weird but I don't care how it gets in there as long as it does! lol

It's total performance anxiety for him too.