DH just doesn't get it

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DH just doesn't get it
Sat, 04-11-2009 - 3:11pm

AF started late yesterday. My first after m/c last month. I was really hoping that I would be able to get pg again right away, but it didn't happen.

I was really upset last night and I took it out on him which probably wasn't the best thing to do, but he was the only one there KWIM? He thinks I'm being overly dramatic about it. He just doesn't understand how upsetting it is to get disappointed month after month.

Then he tells me this morning, ONE day after AF starts, that DSS's 16 yo girlfriend might be pg, AGAIN! She has a 1 yo little boy. I told him that upset me, but he didn't understand why. I know he wants a baby, too. He just says that we have to wait and get the baby that God wants us to have. Which I do agree with that, but it's soooo hard to wait. Especially since I've never had trouble getting pg before. I think that

Mari Beth

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Sat, 04-11-2009 - 3:59pm
Mari Beth- I'm sorry you are feeling down. Dh might not get it, but I totally do. It is hard to watch other people around you get pg especially when it is someone who isn't even trying to. Just stay focused on you. Maybe your body needed another month to get back into the normal rhythm after your last m/c. I hope this coming month is the lucky one for you. (((hugs)))


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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 2:11pm
I know how you are feeling when you're trying and it seems like everyone around is is getting PG whether they are trying or not. Have no fear, we're all here for you! Many hugs to you...
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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 4:05pm
I'm so sorry to hear about AF arriving, especially after you mc. I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but completely understand about your frustrations with DH and seeing others pg. I'm just confused as to why he brought up about the 16yo being pg with #2...that definitely would have been the set off for me. I think it's harder for the guys to understand because of all the work we put into ttc, all the temping, checking, AFs, hormones...it takes a toll on us, and the guys see it as: whoohoo let's BD! I hope you are feeling better and that waiting to O isn't too hard this time around.

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 7:29pm

Mari Beth,

I'm so sorry.

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 7:55pm

I'm so sorry you are going through this Mari Beth. I know how you feel. Just this week, my DH and I got into it about the whole TTC thing. I've been POAS like a mad woman since I was 10dpo, and only gotten BFN's, abd every single woman around us is getting pg!

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Fri, 04-17-2009 - 5:25pm

Well i hope that you don't mind if I jump in to vent.
DH and I were starting to talk about the next step since we haven't gotten the BFP yet. I was telling how I am going crazy trying to check things out online and see what we can try before going to the Dr.. The very next day he felt that he had to tell me that a friend down the street just got preggo and then a co-worker got and oops preggo. The oops was that they have one kid and wasn't going to try for another yet. Had sex one time and bam. I was so mad and started to cry. He didn't know what to say.

Well thanks for that it helps some to vent to someone. I can't really talk to anyone around here. They all have kids and don't know that we have been trying for over a year now.

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