Fear about isolation (vent)
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|Tue, 10-13-2009 - 12:10pm|
I'm new here and I'm hoping to make some friends.
I want to be a mother more than anything, but I'm terrified that I'm going to become really isolated after I get pregnant and once the baby is born.
I live in an area where there are very few people around my age. I don't have any girlfriends that live nearby. I worry that I am not going to have anyone to talk to when things are hard. For example, if it takes me longer than expected to conceive. Or when I'm hormonal and anxious during pregnancy. And especially after the baby is born, when I'm exhausted or having a bad day and need to vent. Who will babysit when I need to get away? Who will I call when I am just fed up and need to cry it out?
I'm worried that the isolation is going to prevent me from being the best mother I can be. I'm worried that maybe I'm being selfish in wanting a baby when I don't have a good support system already in place.
There's also a silly one that has been nagging at me, please don't laugh or think me petty..I don't have anyone to throw me a baby shower. My mom and aunt live down here and I'm sure they would throw something together, but I wouldn't have anyone to invite. Not only is it depressing, but it would be nice to have the extra items. I'm not destitute but it's a little overwhelming when I hear about other people getting all these things..other people's used baby furniture, clothes, diapers, gifts..we're going to have to start from scratch with all of that stuff.
I'm hoping that I can make friends on here and maybe mitigate my fear and isolation a bit..
Thanks for letting me vent.