Hold or quit... (mc mentioned)

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Registered: 07-24-2011
Hold or quit... (mc mentioned)
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Mon, 12-26-2011 - 6:00pm
After our 2 miscarriage in October (not back to back had dd in between), we were very happy to find out we were pregnant again before Christmas. The same day my cousin also found out she was pregnant. I was excited to have someone to take this journey with. As those of you that have mc know no one understands that loss like you do unless they have been through it! Which I would wish on no one! My cousin had spent the last week every other day sending me pictures of her darker hpt. Christmas day I asked her to stop sending them. I am very happy for her and her DH and obviously her pregnancy is thriving but the messages were worrying me because mine were not getting darker. Less then an hour later I started bleeding which I knew I was mcing. When I texted her that I was bleeding she said your pregnant it's probably just implantation bleeding. Don't worry about it. But I knew what I was feeling. We got confirmation today that I indeed mced. I love my cousin but this is going to be so hard watching her get bigger while I stay the same. Our due dates would have just been days apart. How do I move on and be happy for her? I am happy for her but right now my heart is breaking. I want to be there for her like I said I would but I'm not sure I can now. I am so lost.
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Mon, 12-26-2011 - 6:01pm
Not even sure we will try again. With this being our third loss we are terrified of trying again until we know what's going on.
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Mon, 12-26-2011 - 7:06pm

I'm so, so sorry you have to go through this. Just remember that you are allowed to feel whatever feelings spring themselves on you. If it means you can't spend as much time being around your cousin, then hopefully she will be as understanding for you as you would be for her.

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Mon, 12-26-2011 - 7:47pm

I'm sorry you are going through this. You're right, it's going to be hard watching your cousin grow. I have a cousin (out of state, so I don't see them much, I know it's not the same) whose wife is due in May (when our angel was due) and I had to block their facebook updates because I can't stand seeing it.

Hopefully the doctor can give you some answers. You must be scared to death to try again. Just try to catch your breath and sort through your emotions.

I'm sorry.

Momma to:
Madelyn, February 26, 2001
Aaron, January 2, 2005
Baby #3, October 2, 2012

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Tue, 12-27-2011 - 11:55am
I am so sorry, and I totally understand what you are going through! I miscarried 11/28, and I also have a family member that is pregnant that is due 2 days after my baby would have been due. It is so very tough. I am very happy for them, but at the same time mourning our loss. Take care of yourself and go into your doctor, hopefully he/she can find the answer for your miscarriages and it can be fixed. This was my first miscarriage and I am pretty worried about having a second one, that is if I can conceive since I am AMA. Good luck to you!!!!
Rachel Mom to five great kiddos and one angel in heaven (MC @ 9 weeks) Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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Sat, 12-31-2011 - 11:02am

I haven't been on iv in forever and am not even actively TTC, but your post caught my eye as I was looking around.

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Tue, 01-03-2012 - 7:41pm
Renea-
I go in tomorrow to talk to my OB about our options. I think they mentioned about me doing bw then. Can't remember as I was upset at the time of the call. Hopefully by tomorrow at this time I will have some answers or a plan in place. I am RH negative and needed a rhogam shot to carry my dd. I'm thinking that's what I need now. OB gave me one with this mc but did not in October. he said since the mc was so early in October I didn't need one but since I had two in a row they went ahead and have it to me this time. I should be Oing soon so maybe he will be able to tell something at my appointment tomorrow.
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Wed, 01-04-2012 - 12:11am
Good luck with your appointment tomorrow!!
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Wed, 01-04-2012 - 4:47pm
Looks like we are going to try progesterone for a while. DH says he will continue if I want to. I would like to try one more time.
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Fri, 01-06-2012 - 2:36pm

Glad you're going to try again. You have one healthy baby, you know your body can do it. Hopefully progesterone will be just the thing to give you a 2012 babe.

Momma to:
Madelyn, February 26, 2001
Aaron, January 2, 2005
Baby #3, October 2, 2012