Im mad at my DH

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2011
Im mad at my DH
8
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 12:15pm

Hey girls, I just need to vent about my DH for a second. So yesterday I told him I thought I was wrong bout O'ing last week because I have been checking my CM and I think that Im getting ready to soon. Im on CD21

Daisypath Anniversary tickers
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-12-2010
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 1:23pm

Well, I am not sure what you should do, but to me I think getting mad at him because he didn't want to have sex is not a good precedent to start. He is more than likely on board with wanting a baby as well. Timing just isn't always good. I say do it whenever you can when you think you are about to O and if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen. I think it is good to remember, that, at least IMO, your SO comes first. If you try your little hearts out, and God forbid, no baby results. You still have to live with and love each other. I say making sex a mandate really weighs to heavily on the relationship which doesn't make for a happy marriage and ultimately if a baby is born into that, the baby suffers. I believe the SO should always come first, even before your children, as children need the stability of having a happy home. My two cents. Sorry if he seemed angry with you. I know that isn't any fun, but I bet if you are sweet to him tonight and say you are sorry, you could have a make up BD. ;)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2011
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 2:55pm

Hey thanks for your comment. It not that I got mad at him because we didn't BD. I got pissed because he was mad I havent use my OPK yet and all the BD'ing last week was for nothing if I didnt O.His been so understand bout everything since we talked about wanting kids. i just so upset sometimes because Im so irrgurler with my cycles that it hard to keep up with when I do O that way Im start using the OPK's. So I take it out on him when I shouldnt. But anyways we have talked and everything is okay.....

Daisypath Anniversary tickers
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-12-2010
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 3:15pm

Glad things are okay. It's a frustrating process.

Avatar for duchessdina
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2011
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 10:02am
I'm sorry you're having a rough time KC. I had some cycles where I had a similar thing happen since I wasn't using OPK's. I started using them last month and I think things went much better. That way we knew when we could just enjoy being intimate when we knew it wasn't my fertile times and when I was fertile we could BD frequently to ttc. Sorry if you did miss O and if so, I hope you have a better cycle next month.

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2011
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 11:32am
Thanks... I'm going to start with the OPK's on my next cycle because I'm sure I have missed my O already. I just going to relax and let things happen the way there are meant to happen. It's not good to be getting stressed about TTC.
Daisypath Anniversary tickers
Avatar for cowboys_grl
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2010
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 12:42pm

I got angry with my DF, right before we started TTC....because we weren't having any sex the month before.

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2011
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 1:10pm
We had a talk last night because I was telling him we can't have a kid if we don't have sex and the only time we do is when he wants to not when I want too. I told him I know with work he is really tired (works 12-14hr day) but i have everything taken care of when he gets home so he can relax. i know he wants a kid and I get that his tired so IDK what else to do. I'll just see what happens now that I said something to him.
Daisypath Anniversary tickers
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-12-2010
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 1:33pm

I didn't mean to come off preachy earlier, I probably overstate my opinions sometimes. The point was that it is hard TTC because the sex takes on a different meaning. Having fun is the key I suppose but not always easy to make it fun. I am sure just keeping the lines of communication open make a world of difference. Cheering you on for that BFP!