I'm so bad. I get so jealous sometimes. I'd
You are not a bad or awful person at all! What you are feeling is completely normal and I think most of us here completely understand what you are feeling. ALOT of us struggle with those same feelings.
I totally agree with you. My DH and I have been ttc for 10 months now. If this cycle does not work, we will be going to # 11. My DH's brother and his wife have teenage kids. Actually they are hers from a previous marriage. The middle one is 18 and pregnant!! Both my bro-in-law and sis-in law make good money. I went over the other night for dinner and they wanted to show me the "baby's room". My sis-in-law had bought all the nursery stuff. From the crib (which sis-in-law procedes to tell me it cost $325!) to changing table, stroller, etc all from Babies R Us. Everything was in boxes still. Ready to be assembled. Must be nice to be spoiled by your parents.
I know she is almost 9 months pregnant, but she can still help around the house. She is not bedridden, does not have swollen ankles, etc. I say this because she got into an argument with the oldest (non-pregnant sister) on who would wash dishes. It was not the oldest turn, but guess who had to wash them anyways. Oh and this spoiled, pregnant child (yes, child!) has a new boyfriend. Not even the baby's father!!! I am like what????? I don't know who is more crazy. My stepniece who is 18, pregnant, with a new boyfriend or the guy who wants to have a relationship with a girl ready to give birth and it is not even
I COULDNT HELP BUT I HAVE TO TELL YOU MY CURRENTSITUATION,
MY DD IS 13 AND HAS A 14YEAR OLD BFF . SO MY DD TELS ME THAT HER BFF IS 3MONTHS PG. WHAT I FREEKED ,ASKING DOES THAT MEAN UR ACTIVE YES SHE SAYS AND WE GET INTO THE LONGTALK OF BIRTHCONTROLL ,SO YESTERDAY ITOOK HER TO HER FIRST OB APPOINTMENT AND I WANTED HER TO GET THE DEPO SHOT BUT BECAUSE SHE IS OVERWEIGHT THE CAN ONLY GET THE IUD SO HERAND I GO BACK TOGHTER IM GETTING MY SECOND SET OF BLLOD WORK TO GET PG AND SHE IS GETTING HER IUD . IM STILL IN SHOCK THATMY BABY MY 13 YEAR OLD LOST HER INICONCE THIS YEARTO HER TUTOR WHEN I WAS RUNNINGKATE FROM WORK. SO I BLAME MY SELF . BUT THIS IS THE SAME GIRL WHO STILL MAKES ME BUY HER BRTTZ DOLLS, WELL HERE IS THE KILLER. NOW HER FRIEND ,WELL THE KIDS MOM IS IN THE HOSPTIAL AND DIDNT KNOW ABOUT HER DD SO OFCOURSE I CALLED HER AND TOLDHER, WELL COULDYOUBELIEVE SHE ASKEDME IF IWOULD TAKE HER DD TO GOGET AN ABORTION BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO FAMILY THAT WILL HELP AND IF THE KID COULD STAY WITH ME TILL SHE GETS OUT. UGH WHAT COULD IDO I AGREED AND ITS KILLINGME INKEEPASKINGMYSELF WHYME WHY DO I HAVE TO TAKE THIS GIRL TO GET RID OF SOMTHING I WANT SO BADLY. BUT I HAVE TO THINK OF THISPOOR 13 YEAR OLD SHE NEEDS SOMEONE NOW SHE IS 3 MONTHS SHE CANTWAIT ANY LONGER ,SO SENCE YESTERDAY SHE HAS BEEN SLEEPING HERE AND GOING TO SCHOOL FROM HERE AND I AM MAKING HER COME STRAIGHT HERE AFTER SCHOOL. BUT I HAVE ASWIDEOF ME THAT WANTS TO SAY ( HAVE THE BABY AND I WILL ADOPT IT). BUT THAT WOULD BE SOSELFISH OF ME . SO BELIEVE ME I KNOW HOWYOU FEEL AND NOW ITS IN MY HOME. EFFECTING ME MY DAUGHTERAND DH. MY DD KNOWS IM TTCING AND SHE KNOWSTHIS IS KILLING ME BUT SHE IS ALSO SOHAPPY TO HAVE A MOM THAT IS SO UNDERSTANDING AND NOT ONLY THERE FOE HER BUT HER FRIENDS, SO I GIVE MY SELF A PAT ON THE BACK BUT I CRIED SO HARD WHEN WE LEFT THE HOSPTIAL FROM SEEING HER MOM. I FEEL SO BAD FOR THIS KID I KNOW SHE CANT HAVE THIS BABY AND IF SHE CARRYS FULL TERM SHE WONT GIVE IT UP, COME TO FINDOUT THE TRUTH HER MOM IS ON DRUGS AND THATS WHY HERKID IS ROAMING THE STREETS . SO I FEEL LIKE ITS MY DUTY TO HELP HER AND TAKE CARE OF HER TILL HER MOM GETS OUT OF REHAB. GOD HAS CHOSEN ME TO HELP THIS GIRL BUT AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING SHOULD I BE TELLING HERTO CARRY AND GIVE IT UP . OR CDARRY AND KEEP IT AND BE THE WOMAN SHE WAS WHEN SHE LAYEDIN THAT BED . OR GO DESTROY GODSGIFT, HELP
First and for most I don't think it would selfish of you AT ALL! to adopt her baby if that's what you chose to do.
Another thing...the whole no depo shot because your DD is overweight is bull hocky! My best friend is quite overweight and she still got it. I strongly discouraged her from getting it because it too has been linked to infertility so after two rounds she went on the pill. Now that she is trying for a baby the depo shot is proving to have caused some issues.