Lecture from DH...

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Lecture from DH...
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Fri, 04-08-2011 - 9:27am

So this is our second cycle TTC and I'm already getting lectures from DH that I am too obsessed with it. I love him but I just want to slap him sometimes too. What he doesn't seem to understand is that just because this is only his second month giving

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Fri, 04-08-2011 - 11:07am

Sorry you're not getting more support from DH! I think men just have a hard time understanding the thought processes of women

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Fri, 04-08-2011 - 3:32pm

Oh, I know how it is!!!

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Fri, 04-08-2011 - 4:00pm
man, that is hard. I know how that goes. We have been TTC for 10 months and I was upset that AF came and my DH pretty much told me to knock it off we have 3 kids already....I know we have 3 kids but it is still hard to be patient and not be upset that it is taking its time when you want another so bad.....Hang in there. We will get there eventually.
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Fri, 04-08-2011 - 5:32pm
Sorry your dh is being a pain in the tush. My dh doesn't really know or care much about my fertility routine. He has no idea when I poas & last month I giddily told him I got my smiley face & he just stared blankly at me & asked what that meant. I just told him it meant it was "go time" & left it at that. He's still asleep when I temp & he's never asked about it. He does get choked about how much time I spend on my phone googling or writing/reading messages so I try not to do that as much when we're together.

I say keep doing what you're doing but maybe just keep it to yourself & don't put the ttc stuff in his face. Let him be oblivious & then maybe it won't add any pressure to him & he can rest easy thinking natures taking it's course. Maybe he does have underlying concerns & he isnt ready to face them yet. There's nothing wrong with you wanting to understand your cycle & your body better -I've found it be kinda empowering. Plus in the event something is wrong you will have the charts to back it up.

Good luck hon! Let's hope we all get those bfps before our dh's drive us up the wall ;)

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Sat, 04-09-2011 - 7:00pm

Samantha,

I am sorry he is giving you a hard time.

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 12:12am

Hmmmm I like that plan...but I might have to name mine "Grey" after Grey Goose and switch it to a couple of strong vodka tonics ;) But I think you're right, that I just have to be a little more discreet.

Thanks for the advice ladies!

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Tue, 04-19-2011 - 5:25pm

Are you living in my house!? My DH and I had the same issue yesterday... turned into a bit of a yelling match sadly. We went to our first appointment yesterday and were sent for tons of different testing. I think he expected that to just completely clear my mind and make me feel better. But, the fact of the matter is that we still do no have answers just a process in place to hopefully get some. We were told by our Doctor that we should BD tonight and Thursday. So, as a person who's never has a + on an OPK I thought maybe this meant I should try one. When I got a - I was sad. He got so mad! He said he didn't understand why we went to an appointment if it didn't make me feel better. I don't think he realizes that it is a really overwhelming feeling for a woman to feel like I am not able to provide a child for him. It is a really scary feeling. I wish the guys would be able to take a turn in our shoes!

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Tue, 04-19-2011 - 7:37pm

Sorry DH is being a pain! They really have no clue.

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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 10:58am
Ya I am pretty sure my DH thinks I can get pregnant at any time of the month. He has said "well you sure arent trying hard" when in fact we BD plenty during the right time just not a whole lot when it isnt time.....well a whole lot would be every single day for him. or maybe that would me perfect for him... lol. I dont fill him in on many of the TTC stuff, it makes him feel like a machine so I just do it all on my own and leave him out of all the testing and temping stuff...Good Luck I hope you DTD enough to catch that little eggie any way.....
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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 1:34am

My husband and I have been trying for almost a year. I feel a bit sneaky about it, but lately I've been walking to the library to read books about fertility and pregnancy, reading various things online and trying to amass as much information I can about why we haven't conceived yet without talking to him about it. Whenever I'm with him I make sure that I'm with him 100%. TTC, from a woman's POV,

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