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bankerswife
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The Mother In Law
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 Fri, 09-09-2011 - 11:42am

Can I just vent for a minute? My mother in law is horrible! The stress of TTC is getting to me I think, I'm probably angrier at her than I should be. But she drives me nuts. I'm not very close to my mom, she's

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levy08
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Registered: 07-24-2011
In reply to: bankerswife
Re: The Mother In Law
 Fri, 09-09-2011 - 12:08pm
Wow sounds like your MIL ranks right up there with mine. Good luck! A month before my wedding during an argument with my soon to be DH about something she talked him into. She told me I was "just jealous because he had a mother and I did not". My mom passed away from cancer when I was 14. This comment will always be in the back of my head everytime a talk to her or she's around.
bankerswife
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Fri, 09-09-2011 - 12:29pm

That's horrible. I'm glad I'm not the only one. I try to tell myself that it's nothing personal, because she doesn't spend enough time getting to know me to even make a rational decision about how she feels, but it just makes me so mad. Grrr. Maybe I'll have a baby and name it after my

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Aaron, January 2, 2005
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soccergirl2006
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Fri, 09-09-2011 - 12:45pm
Wow, sounds like my MIL. If I were you I would definately try to keep TTC quiet from her as long as you can....she just sounds like the type that could drive you crazy w/her knowing that kind of information. Maybe these "practical jokes" are her ridiculous, crazy, obnoxious, and hurtful way of letting you know that she does want to see you two have a child together? I have learned that my MIL makes no sense in the way she goes about things most of the time, but deep down she usually has good intentions, she just does a HORRIBLE job of conveying them and instead outright hurts people or just plain drives them crazy. I'm sorry she isn't trying to get closer w/you and your kids....that is hard & hurtful, esp with the "her own grandbaby" comment.
hohoswife888
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Fri, 09-09-2011 - 1:25pm

Wow..........what a witch. lol

I'm sorry you are having to go through that. :smileysad:

shigh2001
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Fri, 09-09-2011 - 2:35pm
Sounds a lot like mine too. We are DEF NOT telling any of DH's family we are TTC. In fact, they will be the last to know when we are pregnant! I hate those people, grrr!

Levy, I'm so sorry your MIL said something like that. How horrible! *hugs*
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cait60
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Fri, 09-09-2011 - 4:55pm
Oh wow, that just sounds awful. I cant imagine having to deal with someone like that in my life. We're not saying anything to anyone per se but everyone knows that I have been broody for the past 2 years ever since having DS. Keep it to yourself and when you do get your BFP make sure she's the last person to be told :P
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laural1976
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Fri, 09-09-2011 - 5:05pm
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levy08
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Registered: 07-24-2011
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Sun, 09-11-2011 - 1:35pm
My MIL has done it now. Started an argument with me in the car with my DD present while staying with us this weekend. Immediately took her to my house when she said she wanted to leave so she could do just that! We were suppose to have a birthday party for my DH at her house in a couple of weekends and she said it was called off and I was not welcome down there anymore and she would never be back up here. Fine by me! She definitely will not be told by DH or I about a future baby she can find out from her favorite child instead.
bankerswife
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Sun, 09-11-2011 - 10:07pm

Levy, wow, you've had a rough week. So sorry you have to deal with her.

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Baby #3, October 2, 2012

levy08
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Re: The Mother In Law
 Sun, 09-11-2011 - 11:00pm
I think the weekend was rougher on DH and DD then on me. I just try to keep it peaceful between her and I. I realized a long time ago that she is not worth my time. However I never want my DH or DD to be without her in their lives. What put icing on the cake was after she came in the house from being in the car arguing with me and DD witnessing it my 2.5 year old said, "Grandma, why you make my mommy mad." I didn't have to tell her how she was acting was childish my 2.5 year old did it for me.

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