Not good...I'll be back in September

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Not good...I'll be back in September
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 11:25am

Just got back from the RE, and while there was a tiny yolk sac and an even tinier fetal pole - they were only measuring about 3mm instead of 1cm. The RE is calling it a miscarriage and wants me to start on Cytotec immediately. I am devastated, but have known that this was a probability for the past 10 days, so I am not as crushed as I would have been otherwise. If the drugs haven't worked by Wednesday he wants to schedule me for a D&C on Thursday. We are supposed to go on vacation on Friday, and that is why he is being so aggressive. I can't help thinking, what if the bean is just a slow grower? The RE said that is virtually impossible at this point and it is much more likely that it is a bad egg, and has numerous chromosomal abnormalities which is why it isn't growing, but it isn't an empty sac! There is a tiny bean in there. He wants the procedure done before we go away, so there won't be any complications while we are on vacation. I am just so uncomfortable with his course of action.

I just heard back from my OB - I wanted a second opinion because I really didn't know what to do - she reminded me why I love her so much. She is so sweet and amazing! She is pretty sure that the RE is probably right, and this is a miscarriage, but agrees that for peace of mind, she would just make sure. She recommends forgoing the drugs and scheduling a D&C for Thursday, BUT she said to ask them for a vaginal ultrasound first. If there has been growth, she said to hold off on the procedure, go on vacation and check again when we get back. If there hasn't been any growth, and there should have been a ton this week if it's viable, I should go ahead and get the D&C, but at least I'll know for sure.

I have a call into the RE to schedule the procedure. This just sucks! I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy!

Thanks for being there, ladies! You are amazing!

Susie - Mom to Jessie and expecting #2

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 11:33am
Susie, I am so sorry you have to go through all of this. It sounds like your OB is great and sounds like a plan you both are comfortable with. I am thinking of you and wish I could give you a big hug...sending big hugs your way.
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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 12:17pm

oh Susie, I'm so sorry! I am sad that this is happening to you and the ambiguity still lingers-ugh! I understand why you are unsure about the drugs, I think that's great you and your OB made a plan that you are comfortable with. I would do that, too.

I think it really, really sucks. Of course since my situation isn't looking very promising, I just keep thinking about how I had a chem pg the cycle just before my dd and that was horrible, but look what great things were in store for me soon after.

I'm sending you big hugs and I'm glad that at least you'll be on holiday soon and can sit back and take care of yourself.


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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 12:19pm
I want to cry for you.
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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 12:24pm

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you have a course of action you can deal with, but very sorry that you are experiencing this. Big hugs your way.


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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 1:46pm

I am sorry that you have to go through this. It stinks.


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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 2:01pm

Susie, I am so sorry.

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 2:24pm
I am so sorry. :( I'm glad that you got a second opinion and are much more comfortable with your OB's plan-you definitely don't want to have regrets on the course of action. ((((HUGS))))

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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 2:51pm
I'm so sorry Susie.


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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 2:52pm

Susie, it is so terrible that you have to go through this.