over the edge

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over the edge
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 9:19pm

the realtor is coming sunday to put our house up on the market. We'll be renting an apartment. To help us get out of debt & save up for IVF. my friend has tried for one cycle for her last kid and this one. She just got her iud out on 1/29. she's pregnant. i just don't know why God keeps throwing this crap at me. i used to be able to be happy for people but you know what, i just can't right now. i have a post d&C infection and i'm not even done bleeding and cramping. i was cramping so much i haven't

TTC SINCE APRIL 2007-scar tissue on ovaries & left tube

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Registered: 04-23-2008
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 9:41pm

Hi! I'm so sorry for your loss and all the other stuff you are now struggling with. To say that infertility sucks is an understatement. It is the pits! I just had IUI number one today, my poor husband was a wreck trying to produce his sample within the time frame, and the two of us just looked at each other in the exam room and said, this totally isn't the way we expected to make a baby, that's for sure. How did this happen when everyone else seems to just think about getting pregnant and it happens?!

You don't need to apologize for the "pity party." I would be feeling the same way, and I'd be pissed that someone told me they were pregnant especially if they knew what I had just been through. I feel like I'm surrounded by pregnant people myself these days...I was at a meeting at work, and our boss asked for any updates or announcements, and someone took that as an opportunity to announce her pregnancy...with her second child. Which is great, but again, it's like, bam, in your face all the time. I had my annual yesterday, and they asked if a student could come in to observe. So, I was like sure, and guess what. She's pregnant. Great. Anyway, I will be thinking about you and sending you positive vibes. It is so hard to go through this, and it is so fine not to feel in the mood to congratulate people. It doesn't mean that you aren't happy for them, it's just another reminder that you are not pregnant. Hang in there and know that you are not alone.


TTC since 3/08; hypothyroidism, ovulatory dysfunction; 3 medicated cycles; this cycle- femara +IUI


Me (36), DH (41) - ttc#1 since 02/08

Seeing RE since 11/08, dx with "unexplained infertility."

2 failed cycles of clomid (12/08, 1/09)

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 9:54pm
You are making some huge sacrifices in order to achieve your dream. It can be frustrating when you see others who seemingly have it easy.

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Fri, 02-20-2009 - 1:56am

Jen, I can't agree with you more... it pisses me off when I hear that someone who wasn't even trying gets pregnant *like that* and people on this message board who have been so patient and have tried so hard can't even get a BFP and when they do it's taken away. Seriously, what the hell more do we have to do?

I'm with you lady.....


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Registered: 11-27-2007
Fri, 02-20-2009 - 10:48pm
Jen, I'm sorry things haven't worked out the way you would have hoped. Don't apologize for venting, having a m/c is devastating emotionally. I'll keep you in my prayers. *hugs*


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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 5:18am


We spend so many years on bc thinking that it would be so easy to get Pregnant. Now we find out it isn't true.

I know that DH and I haven't been trying for as long as you and your DH, but I think that

 Julie and Steven - TTC # 1 for over 2 years.

IVF  # 1 - Marc

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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 1:14pm
Jen I am so sorry that your having to go through all of this!! I know that nothing that any of us will say about things will make it easier for you just know that we are all here cheering for you and supporting you everystep of the way!! I have come to realized that most people don't realize just how lucky they are to get pg so easy
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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:55pm


No apologies. You have every right to feel the way you do. It's hard and that's why we're all here...for support. So vent away and know that there are dozens....countless people pulling for you and sending big hugs your way!!!

Hope you feel better soon!!


I'm 38 and have been trying to conceive since July 2008. I had my first IUI with Femara on Feb 4th and AF (the meanie) showed up. Try and try again! :o) I was lucky enough to find my Mr. Perfect 2 years ago and we have 2 goofy but lovable pups! :o)

Me:I'm 38 and have been trying to conceive since June 2008. Cycles 1-7 natural BFN Cycle 8- IUI with Femara and trigger BFN Cycle 9- IUI with Femara and trigger BFN

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 3:30pm
I totally relate to your sentiment, I mean what more do we have to do? Do we have to sacrifice our homes our ambitions, possibly an arm or a leg?? I don't know, it's just miserable. It is :0(