piggybacking off Justine's vent....

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piggybacking off Justine's vent....
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 11:45am

Sorry to piggy back off your vent...

Right after writing that response to you, I read a BFP post and got all excited. I went to go downstairs to tell DH how happy I was for her, and his response was, "You know, I really don't want to hear anything about your ttc group or anything. It really stresses me out, it will happen when it happens."

Uhhh, yeah maybe it will, but you have super low sperm count and it's very likely that it won't just happen!!! Men just have no idea how much work women do. He feel's that way about everything, which is why he has such a hard time accomplishing things and it really pisses me off that I work so damn hard, and when it does happen(if we don't have to try meds), he'll say, "see it just happened", when reality is that it didn't just happen, I worked really hard to make it happen.

When you are sick, if you keep staying sick you don't simply say, "well I guess God wants me to be sick, I shouldn't take care of myself and take vitamins and rest because if I were supposed to get better I would, it will happen when it happens." That would be stupid! And the same goes for this. God gives us tools to use to help ourselves get what we want and what is right for us.

If maybe he's nervous about having another, that's one thing and I can accept that, but if we decide to ttc, then I wanna jump in with both feet, I don't like to do things half-assed.

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Lilypie Breastfeeding Ticker

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Registered: 01-04-2009
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 9:31pm

Men......it doesn't make me feel better that other couples have the same "issues" as we have...it just makes me feel normal.

Hang in there....you are not alone! Most men think totally different than us females....we just tend be a little more on the emotional side...lol....

One of the reasons why I like this board