Seriously?

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Seriously?
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Thu, 04-22-2010 - 7:11am
So we just found out yesterday that my brother in law and sister in law are pregnant again. They have have a 4 year old, and I just can't help feeling like, why do they get another one? It frustrates me because they don't appear to be all that interested in parenting. They're by no means neglectful, but they certainly aren't what I'd call good parents. They let this child do whatever he wants to, with no consequences. He throws things, yells, talks back to everyone, swears, and has no consequences for any of it. Not to mention that they were actively trying to get pregnant and yet my sister in law continued to smoke and drink. I just don't understand it. I gave up caffeine and alcohol when we started trying (I don't smoke), and I'm evidently not even ovulating. And I know all the things that women on this board go through trying to become parents, and these people who aren't even good at it get to do it again. It just doesn't seem fair! Ok, I'm done. I just needed to vent, because I'm not sure how much my husband would appreciate me slamming his brothers parenting skills. Thanks for listening.
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In reply to: mommyjj92
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 12:44pm

I know how frustrating it can be. We've been trying for #2 since last January, and my sister started last summer and is DUE with #2 in June - it took them 2 months to get PG. It just seems not fair and yet there's nothing we can do. Hugs, I know what you feel like!

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In reply to: mommyjj92
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 2:00pm

i see why it frustrates you. i see so many people who dont want to get pregnant that do anyways. or the ones who want to but arent that great of parents. one of my old friends who i wont mention her name was smoking weed and doing different pills while being pregnant. thank god that her precious navaeh was born healthy. then people like me and you and many others try to conceive for months and years and it never seems to happen. im trying for number one....i know this takes awhile...but still it annoys me that its not happening. been trying for about 5 months. i dont smoke dont drink dont do any drugs. i am a little overweight but i eat healthy things...i try to lose the weight..but that doesnt work. im not huge or anything. just slightly overweight. i see people who are very large that conceive very easily. it frustrates me so much that i think its my fault everytime it doesnt happen. hoping the best for you. i feel your pain over your brother inlaw and sister inlaw...


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In reply to: mommyjj92
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 2:17pm
((HUGS))) I know what you mean. I've felt that time many times before. When I was struggling to get pregnant with #2 my 19 y/o cousin got preggers with an oops and it was soooooooo sooooooooooooooo hard to not be resentful. I hated her. She is an awful mom and it's upsetting to see that and know there are so many people out there that would take good care of a baby but can't have one. :( NOT fair at all.


 

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In reply to: mommyjj92
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 4:50pm
I completely understand how you feel. I teach high school, and I teach way too many parents. Last year I had a 9th grader who had her child the year before, and this year I have taught 5 or 6 mothers or expectant mothers. These are children having children, many smoke pot and drink, none are stable enough to be mothers, while I am married, have a job, DH has a job, we own our own home, etc and have been trying for 3 years with no luck. It's by far the hardest part of TTC.
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In reply to: mommyjj92
Fri, 04-30-2010 - 8:37am

I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way!

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In reply to: mommyjj92
Fri, 04-30-2010 - 4:14pm

I know exactly how you feel right now! I too just found out a week or so ago that my brother-in-law and his wife are pregnant with their 3rd. I remember her telling me they were done with kids, especially since the oldest had some medical issues when younger (now sorted). They are great parents, although I don't understand her smoking, still. :(

Hugs! I know it's hard when we want is so badly!




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