Surrounded by pregnancies

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 8:24pm

So far I have two cousins who are pregnant and a coworker who is about to become a grandmother for the first time. What really hurt, though, was another coworker announcing today that she's pregnant with her fourth. All four of her kids have been unplanned--she got pregnant with her first young and ended up marrying the father when she was pregnant with their second. She didn't even have any clue she was pregnant--she went in for an exam and the doctor discovered it--so she doesn't even know how far along she might be. She smokes, she drinks caffeine by the boatload and she's not even all that happy about this pregnancy.

And here I am on month #4, drinking green tea, taking vitamins, limiting all other caffeine ... and nothing.

What's the worst is seeing all my other coworkers fawn over her and talk about her "baby bump." I know I'm just jealous, and that's not fair of me, but I can't help it.



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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 9:41pm

Yep, I know exactly what you mean...... my BFF went off BC 5 months after I did, got her BFP that month and just had her baby, my step sister who smokes and is the last person to need a baby, my cousin, 2 co workers, another friend..... it just goes on and on.....I have been trying for 15 months now.....


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Fri, 05-21-2010 - 12:16pm
I completely understand where you are coming from. i have already had two people have kids, one who didn't want another, and the other is unemployed with one son already and living with her boyfriends parents. Then I have three friends who are newly preggo and I just got done reading a book where four different characters were preggo. it is crazy! I know i am jealous but I cannot help it. i just wanted you to know that you are not at all alone in your feelings.
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Fri, 05-21-2010 - 12:49pm
I'm right here with you and I know how hard it is so ((BIG HUG))! Since we have been TTC# 1 (going on cycle #15 actively TTC....6 years not preventing) I've had multiple friends and cousins getting preggo. Also was my niece (who just turned 19 and of course it was def. not planned! She wasn't even sure who the daddy was) who had her little boy 5 weeks ago and my sister who found out she was preggo while on the BCP (she like 11 weeks or so) and "did not want another kid" and "isn't too happy about it"! I think that hurts the most! I see all too many of these young kids popping out baby after baby and I can't help but be mad! How does this happen to good people? It's not fair!!! I have strong faith but question what is God's purpose? I know that is wrong and he has a plan but I just don't understand why! Please know you are not alone and please know that you aren't the only one who gets frustrated ever time you hear someone else around you comes up pregnant! I pray God blesses us all soon with our long awaiting BFP's :) Keep faith! It will happen! It may not be now, but it will!




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Thank you, Lord, for all the blessings in my life. Help me to remember them as I face the challenges of infertility. I pray that I can surrender myself into your hands. Let me accept the reality of this situation and have the wisdom and courage to take action where I can. Strengthen my body, mind and spirit to endure the trials of infertility. Keep me ever mindful of the needs of others and grant us your peace. Amen.

03/05/10: SA done DH check out fine!
03/09/10: 50mg Clomid (CD 5-9)
03/20/10: + OPK CD16 (had a slight temp rise but guess I didn't O)
03/24/10: O on CD 20 (Big temp rise!)
04/08/10: AF arrived- BFN
04/12/10: Round 2, 50mg Clomid
04/22/10: O on CD 15 (not positive)
05/06/10: BFN! 14DPO
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Fri, 05-21-2010 - 10:21pm

Thanks for the words of support. I think what really bothered me was that she really wasn't happy about the pregnancy. Things are tough for her and her husband and she didn't want a fourth child. I felt bad for her because her husband got mad at her as well as her mother (as if SHE was the only one at fault), so I mentioned to her that I was trying to have a second child, so maybe we would end up being pregnant together. I thought that might make her feel better. She's been great ever since, saying that she knows it will happen for me and asking if I feel like I might be pregnant, etc. It's just hard to hear someone being sad about a pregnancy when you want to be pregnant so badly yourself.

And big hugs to everyone who has been in the whole TTC cycle longer than I have (and I realize it hasn't even been all that long for me)--I hope your struggles end soon with a BFP.



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Sat, 05-22-2010 - 1:35pm

I know how tough it is too - ((HUGS)).


My sister-in-law is 5 months pregnant, and I had just found out that try #4 hadn't worked for us the day

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Wed, 05-26-2010 - 4:59pm

((HUGS)) to you...this TTC thing month after month (or in my case year after year) really does take a toll on a lady...


Ever since I have been TTC (3 years actively TTC, almost 5 not preventing) I see pregnant people EVERYWHERE!

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Fri, 05-28-2010 - 6:57am

Another friend announced her pregnancy last night (on Facebook). I'm ok...trying to fight the feelings of jealousy and bitterness. I've been doing really well lately...and I knew she was going to tell everyone soon. I've been nervous as to how it's gonna affect me. Even though I knew she was pg, it just makes it hard seeing the ultrasound pics and everyone's comments, etc. And even just those words "I'm pregnant!" I can't wait till it's my turn to say those words. Or type them, haha.

I'm concerned about the reaction we'll get from people. We've "only" been married 2 years, which isn't long enough for some. And I think people still think we're in a bad spot financially. Things aren't awful, but DH has been working a ton and we're actually doing quite well. We're moving into a bigger place with a cheaper monthly cost, too. I just hope everyone is JUST as excited for us, KWIM? My MIL already had a pretty negative reaction to us telling her we were trying...so, naturally, I'm VERY nervous to tell her when we're pg.

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Tue, 06-01-2010 - 3:24pm

I read this when you first posted, but I wasn't in a frame of mind to reply. Sorry. I just wanted to let you know that I can 100% relate to what your saying. So many of my co-workers have gotten pregnant, gone on maternity leave and many are coming back already. My cousins and their wives have gotten pregnant and had their kids. ALL (ok, all but 2, one of which doesn't want a kid) of my friends have decided to get pregnant, get pregnant and have their kids and now their kids are almost 1 year or older and I'm still trying!

This has got to be one of the hardest things in life to go through! Many hugs! You're not alone, even if it feels like it sometimes.




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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 2:13pm

I just wanted to whine right along with you ladies! We have nearly all of our friends pregnant, and most of them aren't planned pregnancies. Although, I must say that I think they will all be great parents. All except one couple...DH spoke with the husband on the phone yesterday. The wife is 5 MONTHS ALONG!!! They haven't told many people because they didn't want the baby. Are you freaking kidding me?! Why were they having unprotected sex, my husband asked. Because it feels better! SHUT UP! I hate these types of people! So they aren't telling anyone until the baby comes out basically. She quit her job and is staying at home, hiding out, as she's embarrassed. My god, they are 30 years old, are successful business people, and have a nice big family who would help them. Is it really that bad? And the husband told DH that they don't "feel like putting the kid up for adoption." It was like it would be too much work, even if it would be best for the child.

I'm just SO SICK of pregnant people! There is one friend of mine that is naming her daughter after my daughter! First and middle name! Maybe I should take it as a compliment, but it bugs the heck out of me. Do you really have to name your kid after my dead daughter?! AHHHHHHHHHHH.

Come on BFPs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 2:58pm

chrissi062309- First off, so sorry for your losses! I can't imagine how hard it must be to loose one more less two. My heart goes out to you! Now, how rude of your friend! I know apparently you liked the name b/c you picked it, but REALLY?! Your friend should be sympathetic to you! Nothing like a constant reminder of the one you lost. Not that it won't always be there in your mind anyways but to have a friend name her child that KNOWING you will be around them is just not right! Sorry you are having to go through this. Apparently she isn't the GREATEST friend! (sorry if this sounds so rude but I don't know of anyone who could do this knowing what you been though). That even ticks me off!

And as far as DH friend and his wife. I'm sure things will change once the baby gets here (my sister is acting the same way) but it's still hard to see/hear b/c if they would only understand our hurt and want for a child! Again, sorry you have to be around situations like this.





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Thank you, Lord, for all the blessings in my life. Help me to remember them as I face the challenges of infertility. I pray that I can surrender myself into your hands. Let me accept the reality of this situation and have the wisdom and courage to take action where I can. Strengthen my body, mind and spirit to endure the trials of infertility. Keep me ever mindful of the needs of others and grant us your peace. Amen.

03/05/10: SA done DH check out fine!
03/09/10: 50mg Clomid (CD 5-9)
03/20/10: + OPK CD16 (had a slight temp rise but guess I didn't O)
03/24/10: O on CD 20 (Big temp rise!)
04/08/10: AF arrived- BFN
04/12/10: Round 2, 50mg Clomid
04/22/10: O on CD 15 (not positive)
05/06/10: BFN! 14DPO
Kellie

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