Is there medical reason for D & C?
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|Thu, 10-13-2011 - 6:58pm|
My midwife's office called again today and told me I should really have one "for emotional health." The receptionist on the phone said she's been through 3 losses herself, and having a D & C is just the easiest way to deal with it quickly. She also said that they would not be doing an u/s to confirm loss, and no more bloodwork, that they'd just do the D & C.
According to the receptionist, I haven't actually miscarried yet. She said my hormones indicate that it will happen. I know it will. But, until it does, I can't bring myself to end the pregnancy myself. I need to see an u/s to confirm no heartbeat before I can make any decisions like that. She doesn't agree. She thinks seeing the u/s will make the decision harder and just wants me to go through with it.
I said I really needed the u/s to get some closure, so she agreed to let me stay on the schedule for next week. She said while I'm there I have to talk to a doctor about getting a D & C. I agreed to talk about my options. I'm not crazy, I know it's over, but ending this with a D & C just seems too close to abortion. My mother doesn't agree, she thinks this just gives me false hope. I know the baby/embryo will die, I just can't bring myself to kill it. I could never have an abortion myself (not judging people that could) and just couldn't live with myself. I'm a very religious person. I can't stop a heartbeat. Plus, I don't agree with unneccessary medical intervention. Medicine is for when I'm actually sick, not to make my life easier. It's just the way I believe.
Am I crazy? Am I putting myself through Hell waiting this out? Should I just give in and do the D & C? The receptionist says it's right for me because it was right for her. My midwife (according to messages passed to me) says I can wait several weeks for nature to happen as long as I have no serious pain or too heavy bleeding.