Vent - really upset right now ...

I am soooooooooo sick of the people who are close to us telling us to "not try so hard" seriously?!?! "you know your only making it harder/take longer with trying so hard" "just let it happen" WELL thats just great and all, and yes I know I got 3 beautiful babies by not trying, but not trying isn't and option right now. This baby had to get baked and delivered before my husband deploys again in 2012 to afghan. We really want him/her to be here for a good amount of time before he leaves, because lets face it ... I never know if my husband will come home. I do not want to have a baby that will never get to meet its daddy. The comments are just so irritating, esp from the people that are closest to us and know the situation. If we still haven't gotten pregnant by Aug of next year we will stop trying and I will get right back on BC, because he COULD deploy again 6 months after that since that will be at his 18 month mark for being home. I have had to seriously bite my tongue when they start in because I'm really ready to bite their heads off ... sadly, I think at this point I just cant even talk to my BFFs about TTC any more, even though they did it to get their babies. Thank goodness for this board.