Very angry and frustrated w/ DH

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Very angry and frustrated w/ DH
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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 2:25pm

Thanks in advance to anyone reading this.

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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 2:34pm

Angela-

I am so sorry that you are having troubles!! I am not sure if I have any good suggestions for you but I can tell you that I don't tell my DH much of anything. He knows we are BDing every other day around when I could be fertile, but I don't go into any more details... I think it helps to keep the pressure off him.

~Sally

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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 2:50pm

Thanks for the suggestion.

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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 3:37pm

You know that I know how you feel. Why do our DHs have to make it so hard? I get so mad and just wonder why my DH can't be like other guys and want it all the time. It is so frustrating! I have no advice because I can't get things worked out either. I just keep praying that we will get the right time and things will happen. HUGS ~A

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 9:22pm

Ugh I know how you feel! DH gets stressed with the focus on TTC and can't perform sometime.... plus he travels for work which throws things off, too. :(

I've found that saying less about TTC works. He knows that I take OPKs to tell when I'm fertile, but I don't announce HEY IT'S POSITIVE LET'S GET IT ON! I temp/chart with him in the room every morning, but he's always hitting the snooze button so he's too oblivious to notice lol. I try to keep my obsessing in front of him to a minimum, which seems to help. He wants a baby but thinks it'll just happen.... he could be right but he knows much less about the inner workings of fertility than I do and I'm too much of a control freak to just let things happen haha.

Hope that's somewhat helpful to you :) Good luck, happy thoughts & baby dust!




-Talia
 

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Thu, 01-14-2010 - 10:12am
The good news is that DH came home last night and was ready to BD after DS was in bed!
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Thu, 01-14-2010 - 10:18am

This may sound a little weird! If DH isn't really in the mood for all the work of sex, then ok, have him take care of his bussiness and save the swimmers either for you at the end or have

Victoria

TTC/Not preventing since Jan of 09

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 11:21am

VLC79--- I agree with you.... doesn't matter how the baby gets here, as long as it gets here! You want a baby because of your love for each other and the child anyway.... the rest is just details!

Angela--- Glad hubby was in the mood for BD! Hopefully that keeps up!

Baby dust to all!




-Talia
 

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Thu, 01-14-2010 - 4:58pm
I've been there. It's sooo maddening. I wish I had wonderful words of advice, but it's just taken time for us. DH is slowly coming more on board and I've found if I try not to think of it as BD-ing sex and just regular I-love-you or oh-baby-you're-hot sex, he is more into doing it when needed. Somehow he picks up on how I'm feeling about it, even though I don't think I'm doing anything differently.




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Thu, 01-14-2010 - 9:57pm

You are not the only one hun. My DH has the same issues. This has happened to us the last 2 days. CD15 i wanted to BD at night and he couldnt get an erection. The next morning CD16 he woke me up in the morning and it started good, but then he lost it. UGH!!!! I couldve screamed too.


The tricky thing is here that I try to keep info from him, but he is always asking me if i took the opk and such. Drives me nuts! I got so mad last night I told him he should go to the doctor asap and get viagra because a 29 yr old man shouldnt have these problems. Probably not the right thing to say, but i was so mad. Today is CD 17 and its almost bed time, so we'll see what happens.


We are in the 1st month of trying again and i havent got a + O test yet even though my usual O day has past (CD16). Im not sure on how I should be tracking CM, but might start paying more attendtion to it. Any tips on what it should be like through out the cycle?

Nicole


Sept/Oct 09 - Started TTC #1


TTC #1 - M/C Dec 2009


TTC #1 - M/C Feb 2010


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Fri, 01-15-2010 - 8:56am

Hugs Angela!!!

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