We gave up....

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Registered: 02-06-2009
We gave up....
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 12:04am

So I don't know if anyone remembers me... but my husband and I have been trying to conceive for about 3 years now... we lost our second in October. Didn't really even know we were pregnant that time, just at the end when I started bleeding and took a test. Anyway, we decided to give up trying... I just don't feel like I'm strong enough anymore, and I feel like such a bad wife because I can't give my husband the family he wants.

I've also fallen so far away from God, I just can't seem to pick up the pieces anymore. It's all falling apart, and I feel like I'm a bad person, and I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm constantly sad and depressed, and I've actually been thinking about getting help. I just am not sure what else to do.

I wish you all luck...

I hope that you all get your BFP's soon, and good luck to you all! <3



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Wed, 12-09-2009 - 10:14am

Kim- I am so sorry that you have been having such a hard time on your ttc journey. It is so frustrating! I think every woman has a time when she feels the same way that you are feeling right now.


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Wed, 12-09-2009 - 8:57pm

I'm so sorry for the hard time you've had. It's been hard enough for me trying for two years, without any losses. I just can't imagine how heartbreaking that would be. I don't remember your story as far as what tests you've had done or any known problems you or your DH may have, so I won't make any comments there.

I would recommend looking into an infertility support group or counseling. Have you visited resolve.org? You may find some helpful information there as far as a support group in your area. Please do take a break to strengthen yourself and your marriage. I wish you all the best of luck in getting your life back to where you're content. (hugs)


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Registered: 08-28-2008
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 2:50pm
Kim, I saw your post and wanted to write to you. I am so very sorry for your losses.

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Registered: 01-20-2008
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 1:36am

I am so sorry you are having such a rough time... as a long-time TTCer (8 years), I have had ups and downs. I felt like giving up. But then I decided that I was not going to let IF get the best of me and started seeing an RE to find out exactly what was going on. After clomid, IUI, injections, and 2 surgeries I am finally pregnant with twins through IVF.

Yes, it is physically, emotionally, and financially draining, but it's worth it. I know it's hard not to give up hope. You are not a bad person. Some of us just need a little more help :)

I would recommend calling your insurance to see what they cover. And talking to someone will help greatly too...

We got your back! Keep us posted...


Blessed with TWINS! A boy and a girl!



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Registered: 11-13-2008
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 12:30pm

Kim, sending you a ton of (((HUGS))).

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