When will it be MY turn? :(

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Registered: 06-15-2009
When will it be MY turn? :(
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Thu, 07-21-2011 - 11:32am

When dh and I first got married, we weren't ready for kids, especially since he was still in the Army and gearing up for deployment #2. As years went by and dh eventually warmed to the idea of being ready to start a family, we found the process to be very emotional and stressful. Eventually, we had to give TTC a break when he left for Iraq but as soon as he was home we were in full on baby making mode! A few months passed and each week I would find out that another fellow army wife was pregnant. I was so envious and angry that I was the only young, married wife who wasn't pregnant with a "homecoming baby." DH has been home a year now and those wives have given birth and some are pregnant again. Is it wrong of me to feel so jealous? It's irritating to know how "easy" it is for so many women to get pregnant and here I sit with my infertility wanting a baby more than anything and it's like a slap in my face each and every time I log into my fb page and see yet ANOTHER friend or family member announcing their "unplanned" pregnancy. It's depressing and dh doesn't understand how much it kills me to know I can't just give him a child. People tell me to "forget" about trying and just let it happen. That's impossible. There isn't a day that goes by where I am not reminded of babies or see pictures of babies and I just start crying. I feel so childish because I'm jealous and angry all the time thinking, "When will it be MY turn?"

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Thu, 07-21-2011 - 6:39pm

You are not crazy and for most women it is natural to want to have kids.

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Registered: 06-15-2009
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 11:48pm

Thanks, I appreciate the support. It's nice to have other women to talk to who are going through the same struggle.

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Registered: 03-01-2011
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 12:53am
I hate it when I hear that we just need to "forget" about it or "relax"!!! Really? And how do you do that? How do I forget that wcm or ewcm means I'm fertile & gonna O soon? Should I forget about bd'ing at O time too? Surely that will get me prego!! Ugh...I hear ya honey. It just sucks not being able to get knocked up when we want. It doesn't help that some of the most fertile people out there also seem to be the dumbest...ok my rant is done! It'll be our turn soon (hugs)
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Registered: 08-15-2011
Mon, 08-15-2011 - 6:18pm

I hear ya!!! We have been ttc for almost a year now... in reality we were only able to try

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Registered: 12-15-2008
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 6:25pm
Jen,

I think all of the things that you are feeling are natural. It really can take a toll on us when TTC takes longer than expected. I know it is a step that no one want to take, but have you though of going to a Reproductive Endocrinologist? My theory is (in hindsight) is that it is better to know sooner than later. Quite often there are minor things that they find that they can easily tweak and lead you to your BFP.

Good luck and baby dust,

Laura
ME 34 SO 31 TTC #1 since September/08 First appointment with RE October/10 HSG November/10 - Left tube blocked Unblocked March 17/11 Fimbriae are gone though SA December/10 - 1% Morphology Swim Up SA January 2011 - Morphology is 13% doctor says is
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Registered: 09-08-2011
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 11:42pm

I know just how you feel, all my friends and family are either having their first or second baby by now, we have been trying for about four months already, I had a miscarriage in Feb. and it just tore my heart to peices, it doesn't seem like my fiance likes to talk about it that often and I feel like the only one in the entire world who can't have a baby. It's all I think about.

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Registered: 08-08-2011
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 2:39pm
I totally agree with you all!! Most of my closest friends have babies or are pregnant. I know two girls who weren't even trying and are pregnant! It's so frustrating! And all my coworkers keep saying, oh it'll happen when its supposed to happen. Next peraon that says that is gonna get a piece of my mind, Hah! We have only been trying for 6 months but it is so hard not to think about it. We tried but casually for a few months. And when that didn't work, I've become obsessed with every sign, symptom, charting, everything! It's driving me and my DH crazy!

Dolly- I cant imagine working where you do! It's hard enough working in an urgent care seeing girls come in with unwanted pregnancies every so often. I cabt imagine everyday!
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Registered: 02-14-2011
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:38pm
Hi girls, I noticed that a couple of you are trying for your first little one. I would like to invite you over to visit the TTC your first child board. There is an awesome group of ladies who don't come over this way too much.

For me, I completely relate. I have been TTC our first for 21 months! I'm not sure who mentioned it, but if you are under 35 and trying for at least a year, consider seeing a doc. They can run tests and help ensure that there isn't something going on. We wasted so much tmie TTC without seeing someone, to find out we had an issue. I'm still so mad at my OB for shrugging off my concerns that I actually left their practice.
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Registered: 09-25-2011
Sun, 09-25-2011 - 5:25pm

This last week, I haven't been able to go a day without someone telling me that they're pregnant, they're loved one is pregnant or that they just had a baby. It's bordering on bizarre and it makes me feel very alone and frustrated. I don't like how upset I feel every time I hear a new announcement, but I think it makes sense, since it's something we want too. I just want to get into that club already. Sending happy baby dust your way!

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