Worst "Comfort" Lines

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Worst "Comfort" Lines
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Thu, 02-12-2009 - 10:56pm

When people find out your TTC and having any trouble, they always feel the need to say some lame one-liner in an attempt to make you feel better. I know they mean well, but I have to fight the urge to slap them in the mouth when I hear things like: "Everything happens for a reason." or "When the time is right...."


What are some of your favorite lines you've heard over and over that make you want to scream!?

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Registered: 01-21-2009
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 11:32pm
I hate it when people that got pregnant their first cycle, or people that got pregnant on accident tell you.......It just takes time (like they have been there, and can sympathize).
I just want to Scream to them "And how the hell would you know anything about how much time it takes, you never had to wait!"
Although people mean well, sometimes just not saying anything is the best alternative ;) Unless it is some sort of trick or tip on how to get my BFP, I just dont want to hear anyones words of incouragment, because frankly they are not all that incouraging. But I would never be mean enough to actually say that to them. So i will probably just have to suck it up and bite my tongue till I get pregnant.
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:53am
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 7:21am
"Just relax and don't think about it" grrr. That always BURNED me up!

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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 9:06am

I have definately heard all of the above and then some.


I received many of these lines after my last m/c but the ones I hated most were:


"What is meant to be will be" because obviously my little angels weren't "meant to be"


Then there was Darwin's theory of survival of fittest, yes I am not kidding, after my m/c I had someone tell me not to be upset because of survival of the fittest and apparently mine wasn't "fit"enough and so it was a good thing that I lost my angel.


Then there's always the "well at least you know you can get pg"


and finally "at least it happened early so it isn't that hard on you" I'm sorry it doesn't matter how far along you are once you know you are pg we start to think of that little bean as a child our child and I'm sorry when you can see a heartbeat at 6wks it just confirms that we have a child growing inside of us not just some thing hanging around in there.


It would be nice if people could really just take a second to think of how hurtful they are being when they say things like that.

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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 9:52am

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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 3:58pm

OH MY GOODNESS I was just going to write a topic on this.


Since I found out I have PCOS and have been struggling to get pregnant everyone seems to be asking when we are going to have kids and then I tell them we are having trouble and some of my friends know what we're going through and the worst thing they say to me is


It will happen, your just stressing to much, trying to hard, everything happens for a reason.


One of my good freinds said that "you are just stressing over it" and I just mouthed off to her and said NO, I have PCOS that means i'm not ovulating there fore I cant get pregnant right now. I'm sure it made her feel horrible but hey I'm so sick of hearing it.


I get SOOOO sick of it when people say that.
THey dont know what I"m(we) are going through so they shouldn't say that. Most people think Oh we're having unprotected sex so I'm going to get pregnant nope that is not always the case.


Some people just need to shut up.

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Lilypie 

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Registered: 12-09-2008
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 4:15pm

My reply to Holly.


ARE YOU KIDDING ME????????????????????


How the heck does a nurse have the nerve to say that to you. I would have b*tch slapped the nurse.


WOW!! I'm sorry.


I wish you and your husband the best of luck.

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Lilypie 

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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:11pm

My supervisor continually tells me how weird it is to her that it hasn't happened for us yet because it was so fast for them. It just gets me when she repeatedly says... "it's just so funny to me that it's taking so long...I've never met anybody who couldn't get pregnant." yep...REAALLY want to slap her everytime she says that. grrr >.<

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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:18pm

It really burns me up when people ask "so when are you going to have another one"??

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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 10:55pm
Okay, that professor was terribly heartless. But

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