Anyone else TTC with a large age gap between kids?

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Registered: 02-01-2011
Anyone else TTC with a large age gap between kids?
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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 10:21am

We have decided to try for #3 and currently have a 12 year old and (almost) 8 year old.

Maureen (Mom to DD 13, DS 8, and Baby Girl) Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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Hi.

Lilypie Trying to Conceive 21 to 37 day cycle tickers
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Hi! We are trying for my 1st (I'm 31), but my SO is 41 and has 2 kids who are 20 and 22! Needless to say there was a LOT of discussion before we started trying (and we didn't think it would take over a year to get pg), but now my SO is really excited to take this journey again as a different person; although that occasional fear of "I'll be 60 when our kid is 20".

Tracie, proud 1st time Mommy to Jake! "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future" - Oscar Wilde
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Oh my gosh...I do the same math all the time. If I conceive this year, I will be 55 when this child graduates from high school. My parents had all of us out of the house when they were in their 40s. Also, we are among the younger parents with our 12 year old but will be facing being the "old timers" with a new little one.
Maureen (Mom to DD 13, DS 8, and Baby Girl) Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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Our age span would be pretty similar. I know my 12 year old would be a huge help until her life is taken over by high school in a few years :)
Maureen (Mom to DD 13, DS 8, and Baby Girl) Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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I am 37 as well and my son is 16 and daughter 14. So the gap will be huge if I am fortunate enough to conceive. Sometimes I have to sit back and wonder if I am a crazy woman to do this. LOL! But also for me, I think I will be an entirely different parent at this age. I was 21 and 23 when my children were born. Not exactly highschool, but still very young. I'm a totally different person now. Mostly I am excited! :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 02-03-2011
I have kids ages 16 and 11. I'm 35 and I know how you feel.
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Registered: 08-30-2008

The gap is a big reason why we are TTC. My kids are 18, 16, 12, 9 and....1½. We didn't plan number 5 but now that she is here we've decided that we'd like her to have a sibling close to her in age. Funny she was unexpected and #6 seems to be dawdling in the occupying of my uterus.

It is really wonderful having a baby after "been there don't that". You really do realize that all that stuff you stressed over the first time was not important after all.

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Registered: 02-18-2011

Hi there!