Hello Ladies just wanting some advice.....(long)
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| Sat, 10-22-2011 - 11:14pm |
Hello ladies. I just wanted to get some advice from you all. My DF is apparently going through a CRAZY baby fever......Again............
We have the most amazing three and a half month old little boy. =] He is the highlight of everyday. But the other night DF sat down and talked with me about how he would like to start trying for another baby, soon. He has some good point but I don't think he is thinking that we just had a baby almost four months ago LOL
His mother and father(both have had several marriages) have all of their children very spaced out. His mothers children are 25(df), 20, 8, and 13 months, and his fathers children are 25(df), 20, 7, and 5. So he hates the idea of having a large age gap between children.
He also has Cerebral palsy. Which in his case effects his legs. Within the next few years he will probably be in a wheel chair full time. This is another one of his reasons for wanting to try so soon. He wants to be able to help me when the kids are infants and toddlers and he can not fully do that in a wheel chair, even with our house already being custom built for when he is.
His final reason being that when we tried to get pregnant with Carsyn it took us a year. So he is scared that it will take forever to get pregnant this time as well.
I was just looking for some advice from other mom's on when they decided to start trying for their second child, or advice from ladies with children very closely spaced.
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Wow, that is a tough decision!
Thank you =] I was somewhat worried to the responses I might get as I posted on another board and they about chewed my head off for no apparent reason.
It taking a while is his biggest fear, it about broke his heart when it took us a year to try for our son. He is such a sweetie. lol.
A lot of the other forums are like that, but all the ladies here are so nice and supportive.
it is so nice to have someone so supportive
So sorry to hear about that.... I know surgeries aren't easy either :(
My kids are almost 4 years apart. (DS was born early January, DD turned 4 that February.) Honestly, I think it's a really hard age gap. The first year was okay, but then it got tough. DD has never really treated DS like a baby and resented that he got more attention in public than her.
Madelyn, February 26, 2001
Aaron, January 2, 2005
Baby #3, October 2, 2012
Thank you =]
RIght now I am able to be a stay at home mom, and most likely will be untill the kids go to school, and then would go back to work while they were in school. We both want them to be close so they can be good friends, and not have the issues with jealousy and all that. I see the same thing with my DF's two youngest brothers who are 8 and 13 months, the baby wants to play with the older sibling but is to young and the older sibling thinks that everyone only likes the baby.