trying again at 43

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trying again at 43
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Tue, 02-22-2011 - 11:04am

Married for second time now 43 husband 42. Both have 2 children each mine 22 and 16. His 6 and 8. Been off the pill since after christmas. Been seriously trying for January and February (I know early days but usually a sneeze in the wrong direction and Im pregnant) had two miscarriages in 1997 both not planned last had to have d and c. Been on the pill ever since. Had a really strange light period last week for about 36 hours then quiet a lot of mc. Breasts extremely tender and pain down right hand side (cramping). Took test yesterday negative but I feel pregnant and now disappointed.

Periods been a bit off and on last year even on the pill. Husband seems to think he has the best swimmers in the world and I should be pregnant asap no probs for him before (his ex wife was early 20's though). Having relations almost every nite any other tips. Bit concerned my age is against me.

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Tue, 02-22-2011 - 11:35am

Good luck!

Lilypie Trying to Conceive 21 to 37 day cycle tickers
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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 12:30pm

Welcome to the board!

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Registered: 01-20-2011
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 4:50am
having a rotten time had a light period around 14th February but felt pregnant. Two negative tests later. Dont know where I am with my periods but came on again Friday morning and all weekend and I am in so much pain down my right side and stomache blown up like a balloon. So fed up and feel lousy. :0(
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Wed, 03-23-2011 - 12:59pm

Well finally tested postive Monday nite and that was the only good news!

Went to the GP's told cant see any one for 9 days. I spoke to a GP on the phone and told her about the strange periods and in particular flooding about a fortnight ago. She then insisted I came down ASAP took a blood test and suggested I have an early pregnancy scan. The bloods went to the Hospital and by 2pm they called and demanded I go in ASAP as they have found something in the blood tests and they want to check it. I said is it stating I am not pregnant shall I do another test but apparently the pregnancy hormone is there but they are very concerned about the bleeding (had two miscarriages about 10 years ago). The scan is an internal one. Havent slept and neither has my husband. The hospital wouldnt be specific on the phone but they are trying to determine if I miscarried and the hormone is still hanging around or whether I have miscarried and have a very early pregnancy either way its made me worry.

I keep being sick I am a very strange shape and constantly in the loo and have permanent back ache and indigestion so feel pregnant but the vague calls have made me stressed!

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 1:16pm
I don't blame you a bit for being stressed about it, I would be too. When is your scan?

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Registered: 03-22-2011
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 4:12pm
Keeping you in my prayers!!!!
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Thu, 03-24-2011 - 9:29am
Good luck when is your Scan? Sending prayers your way!!!
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Registered: 01-20-2011
Thu, 03-24-2011 - 12:48pm

Had the early pregnancy scan today confirmation there is a pregnancy but it appears to be early and floating about (uncrtain location). The Hospital are unhappy because there is no egg sack. Its about 6mm x 4mm and I have been put on red alert that it could turn into an eptopic pregnancy or early miscarriage. The Hospital feel that I had a miscarriage last month. The scan was internal so feeling abit sore and fed up had further blood test and they want to do another scan in 10 days to reassess the situation and are hoping it sorts itself out. I had the pain down the right hand side from day one with my daughter 15 years ago until she was born so I am trying to keep busy until next scan.

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