TTC #1, suggestions, "wish I had done ___ before TTC", any advice at all is welcome.

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Registered: 02-07-2012
TTC #1, suggestions, "wish I had done ___ before TTC", any advice at all is welcome.
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 7:51pm

My husband and I are planning on becoming pregnant. I'm not off the pill yet (yes I understand it can take some time after I go off) and I wanted to know if there was anything you all wish you had done to prep before becoming pregnant. I'm on prenatals now, we work out as often as we can. I'm cooking healthy, and making sure Joe does too.

I'm a bit at a loss about doctor stuff. We have a primary doctor but since we don't get sick and just started thinking about TTC a few months ago, we haven't asked her about prenatal care.

What questions should I ask my doctor and should I call up hospitals directly and ask them about their maternity program?

Should I shop around for places that do ultrasounds?

I'm in Florida and as you know this state is geared more towards geriatrics than new life. I've already written off a very near by hospital because they favor the knife rather than letting nature take it's course. I'm very wary of having a baby in a hospital at all and will avoid it if I can but my husband's genes might make that impossible. He was born with a club foot there's a small chance our child will be born with the deformity. Thankfully it's correctable, although it would affect our child's life even after surgery. My husband can't run or drive a stick shift because of his botched surgery, when the doctors cast his leg & foot they covered his toes, his foot is now one size smaller than the other and his ankle is fused.

Please tell me about your coulda,woulda,shoulda thoughts. I'd like to prevent as much headache about this process as possible and focus on growing a baby and a family.

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Registered: 09-08-2011

Start asking around about a doctor and

Momma to:
Madelyn, February 26, 2001
Aaron, January 2, 2005
Baby #3, October 2, 2012

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My OB is Planned Parenthood since they don't keep banker's hours (this is not a joke made on the expense of your screen name). I will never consider having an unassisted pregnancy, not with the genetic background my husband has.

The reason I want to shop around for u/s is to keep the cost low, I'm not interested in helping a doctor/hospital get kickbacks from recommending one place when I can get it done at another for half the cost. Please remember I'm in Florida and cost inflated medical care is a problem down here.

I suspected that a midwife/doula would be expensive, I also know that doctors can recommend them. However, is there an online community that could put me in touch with a larger group of midwives/doulas to make a more informed decision?

Are there specific questions I should ask my doctor about becoming and being pregnant?
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Registered: 09-08-2011

Ask as many questions as you need to. I doubt the doctors will tell you much you don't already know, but you'll still feel better asking. You could ask things about their policy on pain management during labor, medical intervention during labor (induction drugs, forceps, etc.), c-section rate, etc.

I don't know how to find a midwife.

Momma to:
Madelyn, February 26, 2001
Aaron, January 2, 2005
Baby #3, October 2, 2012

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Ha yes, I was calling obgyns in the area today and they all chuckled and said 'Why no we don't encourage C-sections when they're not needed.' Not one had any statistics, all of them needed to 'check with the office manager' to find out what an uninsured 1st time visit would cost and only one offered a free consultation.
I'm glad that luck and happenstance was on your side in finding a midwife.
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Registered: 08-29-2011

The best thing I ever did was chart my cycle so I knew exactly when I ovulated. I was even able to tell I was having a girl from my charting.

http://predictingbabygender.info

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Registered: 01-15-2008
I don't know where you are in Florida, of course, but if you're looking for cheap or no-cost ultrasounds, there are some places like Life Choices in the Tampa area. If you need the help financially, they do them for free and offer other free services as well, including pregnancy tests and other prenatal care. They are funded by private donations. I know because we just donated through my DD's school. I don't know if Planned Parenthood offers those services or not. If you're not in the Tampa area, perhaps there are similar organizations near you.
Here's more information on their services, if interested: http://www.lutzpregnancy.org/our_services.html

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I go to a midwife but its kind of confusing... there are 3 midwifes that deliver at the hospital and they have their own office. it is paid through medicaid. We didnt quallify for full medicaid but qualified for pregnancy medicaid for pregancy services and everything was included. not sure if this helps but just thought I would let you know

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@ pita2399 I call my ovulation my mini-period. I cramp up, and spot every time. I'll chart if we're not pregnant within 6 months. I don't want to chart stalk so early and on our first.
@hopes4little1 I'm not anywhere near Tampa but I will look into that site and see if they are based in WPB.
@mama_misquez I don't know if we'll even qualify for pregnancy medicaid but I'm certainly going to ask.
Thank you all for giving me info and advice. Keep it coming.