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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 3:21pm
2 questions

1. whats your opinion on the oral ovulation testers?

2. If you alread have 1 baby, how long do you recommend before you have another? 1 year? 2 years? more?

thanks, Nyssa

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In reply to: nyssa_3
Mon, 09-08-2003 - 3:51pm
Hi,I have not used the oral tester so I can't help there,as for how long to wait before you have another baby the Dr's say it's best to wait at least 2 years so that your body can rest and get back to a stronger state I myself got pg w/my 2nd child a month before my 1st turned 2 I guess if you feel you are strong enough go for it I have know some who got pg a few months after giving birth to there 1st I hope this helps mabe one of the other ladies can answer about the oral tester

Anita

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In reply to: nyssa_3
Mon, 09-08-2003 - 4:03pm
On your first question....I don't have the link, but I have read reports on various ovulation detection methods and oral- or microscope ferning method was at the bottom of the list and was stated to be least reliable method. I have not used it, so please make your own opinion, that's just what I read. I'm TTC#1 so no answer on your 2nd ?

GL!

Tara

 

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In reply to: nyssa_3
Mon, 09-08-2003 - 4:24pm
I've been using a saliva microscope for a few months now and for me it's been easy to use and accurate for predicting O (confirmed with bbt). I know there are other O detectors that are more accurate but they're also more expensive (my scope was only $25), so I figured I'd start with this. As for your second question, I'm TTC#1, so I can't say. My older sister and I are 1.5 years apart, and our mom always says she liked that spacing (although it wasn't intentional, I was a surprise).

Cassie

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 5:46pm
Hello,

I have no idea about the first qustion... I don't even know what it is! LOL!

However, I would caution you on advice about your 2nd questions. The reason I say that is because that is not an answer that any one person can answer for any other couple. That is really a couples decisions based on a couples life plans and goals.

There is no bad answer... or age difference.

For example, my husband and I have 2 children that are 15 months apart. Most other people around us thought we were/are crazy. However, they will never know how amazing... and EASY it is having children this close together. We are now TTC#3, but these 2 will be 2.5 yrs. apart, and then we will have a 4th and that one and #3 will hopefully be ~15 months apart as well. We Specifically planned it this way!

Also, I have a friend who wants 4 children. Yet her and her DH really do not enjoy the baby stage. They feel too tied down by all the diaper bags, diapers, bottles, and so on. So they are having their 4 all 13 months apart. They are about to have their 3rd, and they plan to TTC#4 in 4 months from now.

And again, we have more friends who have a 3 yr old and are waiting about another 1.5 yrs. They life plans include getting one off to kindergarten before bringing another into their lives.

It is such an individual couples basis. Something I feel so strongly that no one else should ake that decision for you.

The problem? We tend to follow the advice of the loudest... usually telling you to wait longer and take your time. Yet, from a BTDT of close siblings, I can tell you it's amazing! And still, from someone who knows friends that have waiting 3-4 yrs in between, they wouldn't have it any other way. They think I'm nuts.

You really should do what YOU and your DH think is best for your life and your future. Do you want 2 in college at the same time? Do you want to be changing 2 childrens diapers at the same time? Do you want to be a mom of a VERY independant 5-6 yr old and then have to go back to diapers again... and waking up every 2 hrs to feed.

Well I didn't mean to go all out on this. I just wanted to tell you that everybody's answers are going to vary so much... and it's ONLY going to be based on waht they know from personal experience, or what they have heard from others.

Hope this comes out right. :-)

Bethanee TTC#3

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 6:04pm
I have no idea as far as your first question, but as far as your second, I think it's all about your family and your family lifestyle. We are planning on having 3 children. I want 4, my husband says 2 so we comprimised at 3 (I'm leaving a little time in there, hopefully, just in case he changes his mind). After I got pregnant and had my first child, I couldn't imagine getting pregnant again until ds was at least one. Even then, it was hard to think about. I was sick practically my whole pregnancy, was two weeks late, induced and labored for 23 hours then ds was taken c-section. I also experienced some major baby blues after he was born. I think my hormones were crazy for a long time. Emotionally or physically I don't think I could have taken it if I had gotten pregnant again. However, when my ds was about 15 months, I started really getting excited about trying again. We just started trying again this last month (ds was 19 months). We conceived, but just had a m/c. I'm really excited to get pregnant again I want our kids to be about 2.5 to 3 years apart. But, that's just my preference. I do know, that they say when you have a c-section, you should wait for at least 18 months before having another child.

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Mon, 09-08-2003 - 8:18pm
Thanks for all the input & Keep it coming. . . a little background--I posted this message 2 x before it actually took, so it got shorter and shorter. I have a 20 month old and she is WONDERFUL. My sister says I will make her grow up too fast if I have another before she is 3 years old. I would like them to be closer in age than 3, i just didn't know if i was crazy!'