Am I the ONLY one?!?!
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Am I the ONLY one?!?!
| Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:41pm |
I keep reading how husbands love the BD fests, or how someone was really "in the mood" after getting off the pill and that her husband loved it, etc. etc. Am I the only one who wants sex more than her husband?!? I'm almost embarassed to admit it, like I'm unattractive or undesirable or something. Granted, right now he's in refit (insanely busy time in a submariner's schedule) so he works crazy hours, has to sleep on the boat every few days and stuff like that. BUT we've been BDing more now that we're TTC than we were when he wasn't on this crazy schedule. He's YOUNG (24) so shouldn't he always want it?! It's weird when HE'S not in the mood but I always am. I never turn him down (even if I don't really feel like it) so it kinda hurts when he turns me down. Anyway, this is getting more embarassing! LOL.
I was just wondering if anyone else's husband were like that. I want it MORE, even after we conceive! lol



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Angelia
You are definitely not alone!!
After coming off BCP a year ago my libido shot thru the roof, and although DH was happy (before we only did it about once a month), he soon got tired of me wanting to do it so often. I've gone through feelings of rejection, embarrassment, resentment, pouting... You name it.
I still have to initiate and seduce, but now that we are ttc he's more attentive! I've also had to resort to stuff like sexy underwear and even toys. He's a romantic so candles, soft music and such also help get him in the mood.
Hope any of this is helpful. At least to let you know that you are NOT alone.
Minna
+++++++++THOUGHTS TO YOU+++++++++++++++
Jen
FYI, with my DD pregnancy we might have had sex 10 times during the entire pg--mostly in the beginning. Down from 1-2 times per week. I remember feeling rejected and felt like we were never going to have a normal sex life again. After the baby he refused to touch me for 9 weeks despite my begging. But after that he was all over me even more than before. Turns out he was just nervous about hurting me or the baby. I've heard the same story from many of my friends so don't be surprised if once you get pregnant he is the same way--very normal.
GOOD LUCK! I'm sure you'll be pg soon!
Katherine
TTC#2, CD7
Right after I found out I was Preggy my hb wouldn't have anything to do with me in the bedroom. I felt so rejected and after begging and pleading and dressing sexy I finally exploded and asked him what the heck was a matter with me that he didn't want me.
He gave me this look and finally admitted that he was scared to hurt the baby. So then I developed a little bit of compassion for him and understood that he wasn't as informed as I. I was the one doing all the research on what was healthy in pregnancy. So I found a chapter in What to Expect when you are Expecting that is for the dad's. It answered a lot of his questions.
Just thought I would share.
Jen and the peanut
04/04/04
dh loves my increased sex drive. since we've been ttc i've been all over him when i can get him. all he has to say is c'mon lets go. i'm all for it. i know lately he's had a low drive but it's cause he's either been working his @$$ off with his two jobs or he's been stuck at hte base medical clinic for one test or another. so we have made it a point to keep our sex life as good as we can. i seducedh im on our anniversary and once after a bad fight he seduced me. we keep it fair and he's made me almost a nypho. i admit it too.
dh is only 21 and i'm 22 so i dunno what else to say, he taught me how to enjoy sex once before and i showed him how much lately. i'm bad i know
lissa
Oh well. I want to say I'm glad I'm not alone, but that means that you guys have to suffer too! I'm sorry for us! ;) I mean dont these guys know how well they have it? I always here other men talking about how their wives won't ever give it up, haha, maybe we all married the wrong people, lol, JUST KIDDING!
Thanks for all the responses, at least it makes me feel better.
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