Big Decision...What to do?!

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Big Decision...What to do?!
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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 2:34am

I have a "what would you do" type question. I took my last BCP on Oct. 22 and then we kind of used protection during November, and then started trying in December. DH and I had decided originally to only try through January or February, then take a break and start trying again in May or June. See, the winter months are already quite hectic for us (DH bday, Thanksgiving, my bday, Christmas, anniversary, and then DD bday in Feb), so we were hoping to have #2 in either Sept or October, or else wait and hope to have another in the spring. Anyways, I am expecting AF soon, and I am pretty sure she will show up as things were difficult to BD while we were on vacation for Christmas. Anyways, I get into TTC mode and I think it will be really hard to stop and have to wait for 3 more months, I am already having a hard time waiting and we are only in our first month of actively trying. So what would you do? I am so torn. I just worried about having another little one right in the middle of chaos, and I worry about our wallet with adding another bday during all of the holidays. Anyways, what would you do? Anyone ever been in a similar situation? TIA!

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 5:22am
I haven't been in your shoes.
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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 8:48am
I can completely relate. I am thinking the same way. Our DS was born Nov. 30th, right after Thanksgiving and before Hannukah and Christmas. DH's birthday is in oct, mine in sept. so if we get preggo this month we'd be due between my birthday and DH's which is fine. But after this month we'd be due during the holidays again and I just think it would be so so chaotic to have another baby during this time of the year, another birthday party, etc. I sort of want to put trying on hold for a month or two, but I don't think i will be able to stop trying. As for DH, he doesn't care if we have another holiday baby.








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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 11:21am
I'm in the same boat!
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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 11:31am
I totally know what you mean! Between November and December we have FIL's b-day, the IL's anniversary, DH's b-day, my b-day, Thanksgiving, DD's b-day, BIL's b-day then Christmas and New Year. Whew!! We've been TTC so long (9 months) without success, so at this point I will take whatever due date I can get! It's a decision we had to make together, just as you and your DH will have to make yours together. Things like due dates and finances must be taken into consideration, however you must also bear in mind that you can't plan when you'll get pg, therefore trying off and on like that could actaully make getting pg much more difficult. No one can tell you what you should do, all we can do is help you see the pros and cons either way. GL!!
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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:06pm

If I were in your shoes I would not prevent and just not worrying about temping and OPK's and stuff like that. If it's meant too be those months it'll be and you'll be able too relax. Sometimes that's all it takes too get that BFP good luck and KUP:)

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:35pm

IMHO, if it would be really chaotic to have another birthday around that time then I would

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:52pm
I would still go ahead and TTC. 3 months would be torture for me. If I get pregnant this cycle is fine with me but next cycle would bring an Oct baby and everyone in my SIL's family are October babies (2) plus the parents but I still wouldn't avoid. I mean even if you're busy around that time, I'm sure everything will work out.

 

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 1:08pm

Thanks everyone for your thoughts, they are very helpful. Don't you all just wish we could snap our fingers and *bam* we were pregnant right when we planned?! - haha -
I suppose one of my biggest fears is that it will take us awhile to get PG, so maybe if we kept trying then I would naturally just get PG in June or something, but if we wait to try until June then it would be MUCH longer until I got my BFP. But I am just trying to keep in mind that if it is supposed to happen, then God will make it happen. So maybe the NTNP is the way to go for us. Just very relaxed about it. And then maybe I won't be obsessed about the 2ww and such :)
Now I will just need to see if DH is on board with my new plan! And here is to hoping that AF doesn't show this wknd and then I won't have to worry about any of this!

**as a side, I secretly thought I would get PG in November even though we weren't actively trying, because I got PG with DD our first month trying, so being in January already makes it feel like an eternity of waiting!!!**

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 1:10pm

Hey I thought I'd add in my two cents for what it's worth. I myself was thinking like you last january.

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 3:07pm

hi, were the same started tryin end of dec but am gonnastop end offebfor few months as I am a planner too and over the holidays we have 3 birthdays too. way too hectic.


good luck to you this month!


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