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| Wed, 10-08-2003 - 3:23am |
OK so I'm supposed to be coping with having a 'chemical pregnancy' and for awhile I was...ok..so denial was high on this agenda...I admit that....but now 4 months later...here I am...and I suppose I would have still been coping just fine...but my brother-in-laws friend brings it up...."oh I'm soo sorry about what happened"....ugh....I know she did this because I dislike her and she knows it...and she's dealing with uterine cancer which I know I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy....but does it make me hurt less....maybe I'm selfish here..but no....it's salt in the wound...I never made one comment to her about her delema....not that this makes me any angel but still......as a woman you kinda know what's aceptable and what's a topic you stay away from.....and so now here I sit......10 months after my husband and I agree'd that it was "time" wondering if I'm not defective and doing something wrong....how do you decide when it's time to visit the DR and see what's up...I know they say a year but still.....


((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))Sweetie! That was quite insensitive of her, and I'm so sorry it brought on all these misgivings you're having. I will say first of all that chemical pg's are very common- as you see here on the board. Because we moniter ourselves so carefully during TTC we are more likely to notice this happening....though truely it happens even more often than anyone would think. It can happen for so many reasons, but most commonly it is a genetic defect in the chromosones.....nothing to be helped there, just natures way of making sure the one that does stick and develop into a baby is the perfect one. That said, there are other reasons as well....as I have found out. If you are feeling these doubts and would like to investigate further, then take control and do it! I waited over 2 years and wish I had sooner. Remember that you are in control of your body and if you are feeling strongly about starting investigation, talk to your Dr and insist on it.
This is just my opinion and I hope I didn't offend you or anything~ All the best to you!
Tara~ co-cl of Pregnant after TTC