Darned DH
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| Mon, 07-07-2003 - 4:31pm |
Well, Friday night he just can't finish. Saturday was successful. And then today he out and out refuses...just "doesn't feel like it." He thought I just wanted to "play" and didn't realize why I was initiating. Or why I got so upset that he refused. Then when he figured it out it was too late becase I was getting ready to leave by that time. So I told him, either you've got to be willing to "know more" or you've got to just follow my lead. Now we won't get to try again til Wed (he's working til midnight tonight, I'm on 7a-7p tomorrow and he's working til midnight tomorrow), and I'm sure O will have passed by then. So again this month we have one BD to go on.
I'm so pissed. Well, I suppose there's always cycle 3
I told him at the rate we're going (last month we basically had one BD to go on as well, also poorly timed) I may as well just start investigating adoption.
Grrrrrrr.....Men are SO clueless.
-Jennifer


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Sometimes I wish they could just try a little harder to think like us. Sigh.
I think a lot of guys don't realize what an exact science getting pregnant can be. But this might give you the opportunity to communicate with him and make sure that it's just as important to him to conceive as it is to you and discuss the "window of opportunity." I REALLY don't think guys realize the itty-bitty amount of available time. I think they figure that the possibility for PG is ALWAYS there when you BD. Perhaps you can cut out a small paragraph that discusses the few hours of available egg time and leave it for him to read. I really don't think he's acting out of indifference, just out of honest not-knowing-all-the-facts.
It'll happen for you, Jen. And with it, maybe you'll be able to teach your guy some important girly stuff. See if he'll be a willing student. But go slow, he sounds a little shy in that area and some guys have a hard time with it at all. Maybe let him read while you're not standing or sitting over or by him and tell him to come to you with questions he might have. GL
Susan
So, just tell him that when it's time, you will let him know and that he needs to cooperate with you!
GL
Erin
Blessings, Erin
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I checked the last few months (when I wasn't charting anything at all) and found that only once did we hit the "good" time for us. Now, I'm not temping or anything, so I'm sort of guessing on the "good" time, but we were no where near! I finally have him convinced this month that when I tell him it's time, he better get in the mood!
Mel
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I totally understand! DH didn't want to BD last night and I think it was our last chance for this cycle and I threw a fit! I told him "This is the ONE thing that I CAN'T do without you!" Not BD inspiring words, (and I do feel bad that I said it), so I had to do some damage contol but it was tough. I managed to make a "Playstation" analogy and it worked, but gosh, I wish they knew how hard it was to be in charge of it all. It takes a simple (and should be fun) effort on their part! I have tried to keep the TTC thing out of it b/c I don't want to start performance anxiety, but at the same time, when it's "GO" time, it's "GO" time and we need them to be team players! LOL!
What, do they think? A stork is just going to swing by our homes? UGH!
Sending you hugs and BFP vibes and patience vibes!
Luckily, we are all in this together!
:)
Shelley
Aaahh Men!
Good Luck to all of you,
Jess TTC#1
Good luck ladies in corralling those men of ours~!
I chart too, so of course I know the days that I'm most likely get pg. I try to keep the whole TTC topic on the "down-low" so that DH doesn't get nervous (a BD-killer!). I've actually found myself initiating on days that weren't "good" days so that DH can't see an obvious pattern. :)
Mary, ordering a cup of DH. (Can I super-size that, saving some for tomorrow?) LOL!!
GL to us all!
Brenna
He thought that I would be pg at the drop of the hat and it would be so easy. He was actually surprised when my HPT was negative!! I tried to tell him only 20% chance every month even if you do it right.
I've been charting on Fertility Friend which is a nice help. I think he is starting to come around. Next week is major BD time for us with O likely next Friday. I'm already giving the heads up to be "on-call" for BD!
Good luck ladies. Babydust!!
Sara
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