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Delicate family issues?
| Sun, 10-19-2003 - 9:42am |
I have concerns about my own DM. She is an amazing woman who would do anything for anybody, but she also curses alot and smokes as well. OVer the years all of us have tried to gently ask her to quit, and her response was always "____ off!".
When (?!)I get pregnant I'm going to want to stay far far from cigarette smoke, and further still when the baby is born. But does anyone have some insight on how I could broach the subject with her or deal with the situation?
Thanks!
Jenny

My sister, being pg right now and I guess even more sensitive to the smell has become very bold about certain things. The other day he was blowing on her son's stomach making him laugh and my sister told him he needed to rinse his mouth with mouthwash! He laughed about the "smokers breath". But I don't think it phased him at all.
I'm sorry this is more like venting a long with you rather than helping. It's hard when it's family. Maybe try to set your own house rules at first, hopefully it will spread from there.
Good Luck.
Tara - TTC#1
Monique & Junebug edd 6/14/04
Good luck, it is such a touchy situation.
Becky
So many smokers these days don't smoke in their own houses, I can't imagine them smoking in your house if you let them know it's just not OK with you.
I can understand how you are feeling - I have a hard time asking things of this sort with my parents - I seem to fall into the "child" role, even though I'm 30 years old. It's something I try to work on every day. Our DH's, children (or future children) are our first priority now - that is our family. It's been hard for me to establish those boundaries, so I guess I'm just saying I understand : )
Hope it goes off without a hitch --
Denise
Denise
We had a bunch of family at our house recently and my MIL was smoking with my 5 year old niece sitting on her lap. I don't know HOW I would handle that if it was my child. I think I would quite openly tell the child to stay away from grandma when she is smoking, it seems rude but ??? :(
Hope things work out with you and your mom.
CSM
This Christmas will be my parents "turn" to have us, and *hopefully* I'll have some exciting news to tell her. I think it will make the request more credible, but it will be a lot of emotions for one conversation.
Good luck trying girls!
Jenny