Dh is being a DH

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Dh is being a DH
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 5:11pm


dh has been a big jerk today. since he dropped me off at home from school he was joking aobut wanting sex. i don't feel like it right now. he gets home from work and asks again, still i told him no. he asked if i wanted to take a nap since i dozed off on the couch ealier for aobut 10 to 20 minutes. well last i saw he headed towards the bedroom where he is asleep! he complains that i sleep all day yet who the heck is in bed! he's even called me a bitch so far. i've been feeling slightly miserable today and don't know if its that i had an 8am class or that i'm somewhat nauseated. i'm now in a foul mood nad will give him a reason to call me a name cause i'm only lettign him sleep for a little while before i go wake him up cause it's no the first time he's done htis to me and he's been cussedo ut before it sure won't be the last.

thanks for lettign me vent

lissa
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 5:18pm
Hey Lisa

So sorry your DH is being a DH. We all have stories about that. Name calling is not called for though. The big jerk head. LOL. Sometimes we all have bad days and unfortunately when you and DH are having a bad day together it's doesn't help. I know something is bothering you after our conversation earlier. If you need to vent just email me and I will listen more. Big hug.

Melissa

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 5:21pm
They sure can be jerks sometimes! My dh always wants it , but I am not the best to always give it. This month we decided to do it everyday since we are ttc and last night he had the nerve to ask me for a massage...I said, "I have given you sex everyday for the last week, you cant ask anything of me!" He didnt understand...they never do.

Katie


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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 6:43pm


i'm feeling a bit better now, still can't get rid of the nausea, but got back at Dh for being a DH. i went in and cut his fan off. he swears he can't sleep with it off so he's got it on most of the time. i'm waiting to see if he actually gets out of bed now, i've gone in and tried waking him twice. now he's gonna suffer tonight when i want ot stay up late just to sleep in tomorrow. hehe i'm goign to give him what he's got coming to him now.

thanks ya'll for letting me vent, i don't get why he thinks i'm always a bitch. i've actually be quite relaxed since our anniversary last week. i just happened to say some thing aobut him brewing tea in my white tea kettle, whne he said i've been doing nothing but bitching at him lately. i give up he's just gonna have to deal with me since i'm not feeling too well today.

(((((((((((((((((hugs back))))))))))))))))))))

lissa
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 6:59pm
Hi Lissa,

I can relate to your story! Last night I was being very hormonal (hopefully, I am PG). Anyway, we were fighting and he doesn't get that he should not add fuel to the fire when I am raging. He called me a name and I went into hysterics. I hate that! It's the worst! I wish that they would understand us better! P.S. How do I get into the chat room?

Conceive......Believe........Receive!

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 7:14pm
welcome click on hte link where hte abbrv, and hte other things at the top f hte page are it says ttc chatroom

lissa
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 1:03am


we made up with some good BD. don't have much else to say. i'll check in here again later tomorrow.

love ya'll

lissa
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 10:38am
Just my opinion here and not trying to offend anyone, but the name calling from your DH is TOTALLY uncalled for. Now, I don't know you or your situation, but I do know that you are on this site because you are TTC and that means that you are trying to bring a child into this very uncertain world of ours, and your DH is calling you a B***h !!! No way would I tolerate that from my DH. Maybe you all talk that way to each other and it's all fun and play and if that's the case, well then I'm sorry I said anything. But if he really means that, I think I would have to re-evaluate the entire situation. If my DH called me that, we would definitely have problems. Maybe you need to sit down with DH and discuss this with him and let him know it hurts your feelings. You know, the best "make up sex" in the world still doesn't take away hurtful things that are said.

I'm sorry if I offended you here, but I just had to say something about that. I've been in a relationship many years ago where there was name calling, abuse--mental and physical, alcohol, etc. , and it just makes me cringe to think that 2 people that love each other have resorted to that within their relationship. That's all. I may be making a mountain out of molehill, and please forgive if I am. I guess I just feel so very fortunate for my DH cause I know he would never call me names like that. We have a very special relationship.

GL to you and I hope everything works out!!!!

~Lisa O~ C5 CD17 4DPO

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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 12:59pm


hi lisa

its okay you didn't offend me, i was fustrated last night with my dh i was leaving hte term dh slightly open to mean whatever it could, me and a few ofhte other ladies figured out new terms for dh to mean.

i don't know what else to really explain my dh is usually a very sweet man it just happens to be that he picked hte wrong day to argue with me. he can be a sweetheart and he can be a jerk but he knows never to insult me cause i can do it right back. i only posted my gripe so i oculd vent and get my fustrations out aobut how bad he was acting.

its ok now tho, i did talk to him after i got off hte computer last night.

lissa
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Sun, 09-14-2003 - 3:27pm
Hey Lissa,

I completely know what you are talking about. My DH can be a REAL ass sometimes. We just sought counseling on Friday with a pastor. Neither of us are religious but the pastor was wonderful. He is helping us work through very much the same thing as you are describing. Sometimes people lose sight of what is important when they are wrapped up in themselves. If he doesn't come around and start respecting you, not calling you names and treating you like the wonderful woman you are, I would suggest a little counseling.

Sometimes you need a swift kick in the butt by someone trained to really see what your actions are doing. It's probably just a mixed up communication problem and maybe even him keeping score. As you said he was saying you sleep all day yadda yadda. I hope this helped knowing that you aren't alone in this. Even us TTC ladies have big blowouts with our DH's. It's ok though, for better or for worse, right?

If you'd like to chat you can email me at greymoments@hotmail.com

Claire