My DH sounds like your DH! He's all for having a second kid...but when the time is right BDing is the furthest thing form his mind! Then like the next day he is all over it and wonders why I don't get pregnant?! I've tried to explain the timing thing to him...still not sure he fully understands the seriousness of it. We have decided it is better though if I don't tell him when 'it's time'...rather I should just initiate it. Then he isn't under pressure to 'perform'.
Maybe you can set your alarm for around the time he gets home.
I don't know that I'd consider it mixed messages. Quite honestly, knowing my guy, he probably forgot! I think you should jump his bones. That should keep him at attention!
I agree with Aimee...just jump his bones! haha It sounds like both of you are maybe feeling a little vulnerable?? Maybe one night when he comes home from work, meet him at the door in a sexy little outfit. ALLLLL thoughts of pressure or vulnerability will instantly be forgotten! :o) Good luck to you!!!
Me:I'm 38 and have been trying to conceive since June 2008. Cycles 1-7 natural BFN Cycle 8- IUI with Femara and trigger BFN Cycle 9- IUI with Femara and trigger BFN
Sometimes men are uncomfortable with the pressure
My DH sounds like your DH! He's all for having a second kid...but when the time is right BDing is the furthest thing form his mind! Then like the next day he is all over it and wonders why I don't get pregnant?! I've tried to explain the timing thing to him...still not sure he fully understands the seriousness of it. We have decided it is better though if I don't tell him when 'it's time'...rather I should just initiate it. Then he isn't under pressure to 'perform'.
Maybe you can set your alarm for around the time he gets home.
Patrice - Mommy to Wyatt 11/12/07
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/24c826Patrice - Mommy to Wyatt 11/12/07 & Madelyn 11/29/09
Me:I'm 38 and have been trying to conceive since June 2008. Cycles 1-7 natural BFN Cycle 8- IUI with Femara and trigger BFN Cycle 9- IUI with Femara and trigger BFN
Honestly we tried for 3 months then the pressure got too much for him and he called off TTC.
Erin
McKenna 7 yrs
Liam 10 months
Baby EDD Nov 30
Just don't tell him you are about to Ovulate, then there's no pressure.
Just enjoy the sex amd see what happens.
Julie
Julie (34)
Julie and Steven - TTC # 1 for over 2 years.
IVF # 1 - Marc