a diff. perspective on the new board..
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|Fri, 03-28-2003 - 7:19am|
just a couple notes, if you dont mind me saying:
any kind of change is difficult for most people to adjust to. its in our nature. rememember the first time you came to a message board? you had to figure out how it worked. same thing here...it is taking us out of our comfort zone. and maybe that's not a "bad" thing. sometimes we need to have our worlds stirred up a little. let's give the board a chance...we may need to learn to think about it in different ways...we may need to figure out positives are going to come out of this change *how about the ability to email each other thru the board?* i think the friendships and connections we have made here are worth us stretching ourselves to figure out how to make the board work for us.
here's another way to think of it: change is something that we cannot escape. in fact, the rate of change of change is increasing ~exponentially~. if we cant adjust to a change in the structure _of_a_message_board_, how are we going to be able to teach the children we are so diligently trying to concieve, how to deal with the increased change they will experience in THEIR worlds?
one of the issues i was concerned about re the new board structure, is that our group relies so heavily on afnw groups that are constantly cycling. i'm wondering, if perhaps, instead of listing groups by AFNW dates, we consider listing groups by the ~~phases of the TTC cycle~~ . consider the following, or something similar?
Ladies in Waiting
Waiting for O
2 Week Wait
1 Week Wait
So, for example, those still in Tater Tots would probably be in the AF Overdue group. some of the TT's would have already moved onto the Hosting Group. this way, the groups can remain static; we would move through them as our cycle progresses, instead of being attached to a particular group. it would require us to be fluid...while the groups remain static. it would make it easier for gals to find the group they belong in. if we choose to use this concept, i think we will naturally move from one phase to another with a cluster of women, and the other nice part, for the Sisters of Irregularity, is that they will hopefully be able to choose where they are at in phase.
doing it this way would preclude the group names we have so much fun with and give us such a strong sense of identity with where we are in relation to our sisters on the board...BUT! using this new structure could help us get to know more women on the board better because our AFNW groups are really an artificial construct. think of it...how many times have you started off your cycle in one group but had an early or late O date that put your AFNW in another "group" anyhow? i know that it sure as heck frustrated me to be in a group, have a delayed O, and basically be the only one in a follicular phase, while everyone else was DPO. the purpose of the AFNW groups is to help us share the challenges and joys of each phase with other women who are in the same phase. i think that our AFNW groups perhaps put TOO much structure on something which is too dynamic and unpredictable. and i think that using phase groups instead of AFNW groups more clearly enables this intent.
so anyhow...fwiw...IMVHO...that's my thots on the matter...this doesnt have to be a bad thing. we can find good things in it, if we let ourselves. it is because we value the commnunity here so much that that the disruption is upsetting. and it is precisely that value of the community that should inspire us to adapt to the change and NOT LOSE that which we have all put so much heart and soul into creating.