Feeling hurt and dissapointed... is it me??

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Feeling hurt and dissapointed... is it me??
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Fri, 02-17-2012 - 5:27pm

How can I not be pregnant!!! I got pregnant the first time with both of my sons and this time it is our second month trying.. I feel like I am doing something wrong or maybe DH. I guess I am just looking for someone to blame. I tested 3 days early which gives me some hope but I dont want to be set up for dissapointment again it hurts.. especially when my expectations are so high.Even tho the test is 3 days early it is the clearblue digital and they are pretty accurate even a few days before. I like to use them because it is a wonderful feeling seeing those words" PREGNANT" pop up on the screen but it is horrible when the words "NOT PREGNANT" come up because I feel like its yelling at me " YOUR NOT PREGNANT DUMMY" urh.. why did I test early?? I just want to get my period already and get it over with. I dont want a December baby because of Christmas and I dont want a Jan baby because my youngest is in Jan. So I guess I can try for november but after that I gotta wait a few months.. :smileysad:

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Sat, 02-18-2012 - 2:49pm
Throw a bunch of hormonal women together & the claws are bound to come out. I'm sorry I offended you, but as you said everything comes across differently in text. Perhaps you read my post & imagined me yelling at you? Sounds like you didn't even fully read it, because the message you are taking from it isn't what was intended.
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Sat, 02-18-2012 - 2:27pm

okay. I think you may have interpreted pranamamas post a little better. I was simply posting that I am suprised and frustrated about myself not being pregnant yet and I can see how ladies TTC could be offended especially if they are still TTC their first. Maybe it has been a bit early to post my about my dissapointment but I have no one to talk to especially friends and no support. I was looking for support on here and it just brings me down to be talked to like I am a spoiled brat

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Sat, 02-18-2012 - 11:00am
She was in no way saying you should stop posting. IV is here to support you through the TTC process. However you should be more sensitive to those who have been at this for a very long time. Complaining about not being pregnant after a cycle or 2 really grates on those of us that have been at this for a significant period of time. If you ever get to cycle 12+ without being pregnant you will see exactly what pranamama means. You become very sensitive to "newbie" complaints.
Even if that's not how you meant it, it's how you came across.
Lilypie Trying to Conceive 21 to 37 day cycle tickers
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Sat, 02-18-2012 - 2:13am

Just wanted to make clear that I am not trying to offend anyone. I reread your post and see that you are pregnant and Congrats to you! and I wanted to mention everything sounds different in text that is why I am trying to analyze your post and I can see how you would be offended but I am looking for someone to talk to because everyone especially my parents think 2 is enough and I am pushed to not have anymore. Even though I may seem spoiled I dont have any support from anyone except DH and he doesnt really understand so to have one place to post and get my feelings out, it is frustrating that I am being called insensitive and spoiled because I already have 2 children. Before them I honestly thought I couldnt get pregnant because I was never on BC and never got pregnant with DH ( mind you we werent taking precaution nor preventing ) Just thought I would add to my post and I am sending as many baby vibes as I can but selfishly keeping a few for myself.

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Sat, 02-18-2012 - 1:53am

I am honestly offeneded and by no means am I trying to upset anyone. I created my own post for people to tell me possible reasons why I am not getting pregnant and their opinions and not to be talked down to. I never said I was infertile just that I was worried because the toothpaste can cause it. I am sorry you are still TTC but I could be at that number right along with you. If you would have read my previous post thouroughly you would have seen that I did say " If anything I should be sending you ladies baby dust" I am not going to quit posting because you are offended and I feel I have not said anything about any person specifically just about myself. That is what this board is for and even though I have only been ttc for 3 cycles I am still TTC like the rest of you. As for your IV girls. I have much respect for them. Im sure many of those women have gone through heartache. Although I cannot say I experienced this myself I have a sister in law who has had this problem and I was with her mc after mc and finally them saying she cannot have any more children. Your right life is unfair but I am not going to stay quiet when I have no one to talk to about this so I feel if there are other women that are TTC they should offer friendly help and support.

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Sat, 02-18-2012 - 12:22am
Jean's right. You do need to chill out. It's only your 2nd month ttc & you're not even out this cycle -you still have a realistic chance of scoring a bfp. Digitals are not as sensitive as an frer so I recommend you try one of those too.
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Fri, 02-17-2012 - 8:48pm
it is a high concetrated flouride that I got prescribed for me because my enamil is so weak. it is made by cypress sf 5000
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Fri, 02-17-2012 - 8:20pm
What kind of toothpaste do you use? I have never heard of toothpaste causing infertility and with 17 cycles to research and obsess I've heard all sorts of crap. :)
Lilypie Trying to Conceive 21 to 37 day cycle tickers
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Fri, 02-17-2012 - 7:57pm

This is actually our 3rd cycle and not really stressed necessarily but the main reason I am worried is because I found out a few weeks ago that the toothpaste I have been using can cause infertility. I never read the warnings til I found them under the trashcan and my dentist did not even mention this to me! I do not think this is the main cause it could just be wrong timing but it definatly makes me wonder. I am sorry you have had not luck ladies, if anything I should be sending baby dust to you all. I hope we all end up pregnant soon!

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Fri, 02-17-2012 - 7:36pm

I think you need to chill out.

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