Fertility Aid????

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Registered: 12-26-2007
Fertility Aid????
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Thu, 12-11-2008 - 7:49pm
Hello Ladies! I know it has been a while, but I need your help! We've been TTC for 14 mons now, following our loss of a multiples pregnancy @ 19wks 6d almost 17 mons ago. We are both 26 and I
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2008
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 8:14pm

First off... I am sorry you are getting so discouraged. Keep positive thoughts =)

So I am all for getting tested. My theory is that it is better to know than to keep guessing. God forbid there is a problem, it is better to have it out in the open. I would tell your hubby how concerned you are and that it is stressing you out and ask him to get tested with you. Make sure you word it correctly though.... You want him to understand that you are concerned that it could be either of you, not that it is his fault. You could schedule your initial tests on the same day.

I have to imagine that it is very embarrassing for a guy... they are afraid they will be less of a man if they can't get you pregnant. But the reality of it is that there are a lot of factors that contribute to a couple not being able to get pregnant including stress. So if you know what the issue is, maybe you can work around it... maybe get a good vacation out of it or something to relieve the stress/pressure.

Good luck!

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Registered: 12-26-2007
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 8:33pm

Thank you so much for the encouraging words. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what we want, we forget to be grateful for the things we have and I needed that reality check;)


I don't bring it up often and I had even stopped using OPK's, preseed, and everything just to relax and let it happen. I did tell him that we should get tested together and his response was "You want me to get tested?"....it was cool when it was only me getting tested. I think it's a little frustrating for us as women as