has anyone else made the stupid mistake

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Registered: 08-14-2008
has anyone else made the stupid mistake
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 8:56am

Has anyone else (like me) made the stupid mistake of telling a lot of people about TTC? I never would have done this had I ever imagined it taking this long. Now I get question after question each month, and I hate it. Some people can be so rude too. I always get the usual "just relax and it will happen," but in addition to the usuals I'm getting the "what is taking so long?" and "why not?" and yesterday I actually got a "can't they just put his stuff in you?!"

Ugh!




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Registered: 08-28-2008
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 9:10am
I had other people spread the word for me and it turned into a great deal of crap that I did not want from people. I got the same comments as you including after I had my 3rd m/c and people were telling me that those things just happen and I need to relax more and it won't happen next time. That was the same response when my family members found out about my surgery. The surgery wasn't really necessary but relaxing now that would do the trick. Or the whole stop trying and it will just "magically" happen. Unfortunately people can't be untold and it is extra drama that no one wants to put with. The best way to handle it I think is to come up with a great response that they just can't come up with a comeback for. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

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 PCOS, Insulin Resistance, MTHFR, APS (Hughes Syndrome) and a Mullerian Anomaly  (bicornuate uteru

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Registered: 07-13-2009
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 9:11am

when my ex husband and i were trying, we told everyone. BIG MISTAKE! Come to find out, he was completely sterile but didn't want anyone to know. so...how do we go about telling people there will be no babies??? We ended up adopting, but people STILL asked about us getting pregnant.


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Registered: 02-20-2009
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 11:29am
I told my close friends and immediate family we were trying, but once I told those people, I found myself casually mentioning it to other people as well. I was excited we were trying and didn't think we would have any trouble. Six months later, after surgery, injectable fertility drugs and countless doctors appointments and heartache....I wish I never said a word.

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Cycle 1 - BFN. Was told I have polycystic ovaries. The fertility obession begins. Day 3 Blood Work - Appears to be normal, with slightly high prolactin. Must re-do next cycle.
Cycle 2 - DH's s/a came back normal. BFN - AF arrived early.
Cycle 3 - Day 3 Blood Work re-do is normal. Could not do HSG...long story. Have an appt. with the local fertility genius in mid-May. O'ed early, no chance for a BFP this cycle, which was my first 28 day cycle in YEARS!
Cycle 4 - Day 3 b/w is normal yet again. Back to my regular cycle length. Using CBEFM and OPKs, not temping. Learned that I DO NOT have PCOS, but do have an obstructed cervix. Surgery to correct in early July.
Cycle 5 - Had surgery to correct cervix, as well as HSG (tubes clear), endometrial biopsy, hysteroscopy, and more. Cysts removed from tubes, and a fibroid removed. Getting ready to start IUI.

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Registered: 07-25-2009
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 11:51am
I told my mom and his parents know and amazingly his mom and dad don't really try to give any advice, they don't really try to get in the way to much thankfully, my mom has said "Just relax and it will happen" and "just remember, it took your dad and I 2 years to have you" And that was like a year ago so I'm thinking "I don't want it to take 2 years!!" but here it is over 2 years later lol but for the most part telling my mom was a good think because she's been there for me! so it's been okay for me, if we came right out and told my husband's grandma...oh my lord I'd have to deal with SO MUCH CRAP, she's already said "they don't need one right now!" because my husband is in college.


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