Having another child for my daughter's sake....

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Registered: 03-21-2011
Having another child for my daughter's sake....
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Fri, 03-30-2012 - 5:50am

Hello

I am a 40 year old women with a 2 year old daughter, who in the past has decided not to have anymore children,

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Registered: 09-15-2007

I would say only have a child if YOU want a child, not because you think your daughter might like a sibling.

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Registered: 01-07-2004

hello!! well i would only do it if YOU want another. keep in mind-you will have to take care of the baby and being pregnant at 40 is not easy. Although i am not 40-my sister and friends all had babies later in life-and they said its much harder to be pregnant then...but you just had your dd at 38 so 40 wont be too much of a stretch. i have a friend who had a baby at 40-and she adores her dd. she said she wouldnt change anything about it. but her other child is 16 years older than the lil miss and my friend is constantly worried her dd is not getting enough interaction with kids...but again only have a baby if YOU want to have one. you could always get your child a pet if you want her to have a companion and choose not to have another child. take care!!
JOANNE

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Registered: 08-05-2008

I'm going to echo the others and say only if you really want another child and have the time, energy, and resources for it. I was the youngest of four and there was a six year difference between me and my next oldest sibling. The other three were close in age and it was very lonely to be the only little one. I remember asking my mother for a little brother or sister and her telling me they couldn't have any more children. That said, I don't remember it bothering me as much after I reached elementary school age. A sibling would be a beautiful gift but in a few years your little girl will be out in the world going to school and making friends.

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Registered: 08-05-2008

Another thing to consider is that even if you have a child right away it will be quite a while before he or she becomes a real playmate. I have a ten-month-old and a three-year-old and they really can't do much together yet aside from tickles and peek-a-boo.