How do you not lose your mind?

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Registered: 04-08-1999
How do you not lose your mind?
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 4:04pm

How do you ladies not lose your mind over this TTC thing?

Today is the 1st day of our 3rd cycle. 1st cycle we got pregnant and miscarried. 2nd cycle our BD timing was off due to work schedules & helping prepare for my SO's sisters wedding.....I knew it was a bust even before the TWW started.

Now I feel like I'm obsessing over this next cycle and I can't even actively do anything to help

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Registered: 06-14-2010
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 5:26pm

Well, I can say for myself, I've lost my mind several times!!! But I always find it! LOL! Different people are different. I've gone from being totally obsessed, counting days and temping to forgetting what cycle day it is. There have been times when it has totally taken over my existence. For me, that's hard. So the last few months i've been taking it easy not thinking about it......that being said I just bought a bunch of OPK's and HPT's last night! LOL! I'm 11 DPO and suspect I might even be pregnant now! So this thing I affectionately refer to as the "roller coaster" continues! LOL!

Good luck hun! I will be praying for you!

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Registered: 11-08-2003
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 6:00pm

Lilly... Oh my... I hope your pregnant.

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 6:31pm
If you figure it out, let me know 'cause it's only my first cycle and I'm NNNUUUUTTTSS!


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Registered: 06-14-2010
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 6:46pm

Actually I tested today and BFN but I think it's still early. My cycle is weird. I'm thinking this because of the EXTREME nausea I've been feeling the last two or three days. And my bb's were sore for a week straight! So who knows. We shall see. I will test again tomorrow and the next day. Dollar tree baby! LOL!

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Registered: 04-02-2011
Thu, 07-14-2011 - 11:32pm
It's tough to say the least. It helps and it's harder to be on these boards. You can blow off steam and chat with others in the same situations. But I also find myself checking in, thinking about it more and my baby fever grows the more I'm on here. For me, last month, my first month ttc, was tough. I'm on summer break and was on here a ton and didn't have much to occupy my time. This month I'm keeping busy by working summer school and going camping right around 9 DPO so telling myself I won't test until I get back.
Good luck with the roller coaster ride. Well be here for you and hopefully it's a short ride.
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Registered: 03-25-2011
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 2:32am
I was the same!getting pregnant consumed my waking thoughts and every minute through the day!it wasn't healthy-I was obsessed,cried,worried and just let my life revolve around timing sex,my temps and reading into every thermal shift!I was making myself ill!I failed first month,got pregnant 2nd when i was obsessed but had a chemical as I was really stressed and worrying too much-my dad died 3 days after I lost the baby!The next month I still decided to temp but not read into it,not worry and yes,try to time sex the right days but to be honest,do most of us know when the right day is!we took it as it came,no preseed or anything and now I am just over 10 weeks pregnant!stressing Will affect ovulation and your ability to conceive!good luck and hopefully,in a positive way,you Will be moving onto a baby board-all the best x
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Registered: 07-09-2011
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 10:11am

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Registered: 01-17-2008
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 12:13pm

Hi! I know what you're feeling. It took us 13 months straight to get pg; and I obsessed BIG time! I was trying everything - OPK's, temping, diet, supplements/vitamins, charting.... it got to the point where I had to sit down and figure out what was helping and what was hurting. I realized that once I had temped enough to know my cycles better it wasn't needed and dropped that. I stopped charting, and instead just

Tracie, proud 1st time Mommy to Jake! "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future" - Oscar Wilde