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How supportive is DH?
| Sun, 07-27-2003 - 8:36am |
I thought my DH was very supportive but now he acts like he is annoyed that I can't "just let it happen". I just had an early m/c or "chemical pg" were I had a positive hpt but it didn't stick. So, I guess I wasn't supposed to be upset. He doesn't want this to be a time of disappointment were I am upset every month it doesn't happen. So, I guess I'm not supposed to show any emotion about it. It's not like I am crying and totally depressed but isn't it normal to feel a little bummed out? Then my neighbor asked what all I've looked up on the internet about pg and he said as he rolls his eyes, "She's on there everyday" like it just really annoys him. He is taking the attitude that if it happens it happens. I feel that way too but when all this stuff is going on it is hard not to want to know what is going on with your body, what others are going through, etc. I don't know, now I feel like I should just not talk about it to him anymore and I have to sneak around to on this board or something. This is not how I imagined us TTC. We have been married for almost 7 years now and this is the first time we have decided to TTC. I think it is a major deal! Sorry if he doesn't. He's just making me feel weird about it. Anyone else experience this?
Thanks,
Jen
TTC#1 C2.5 D3

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LOL, I feel like sticking my tongue out at him would have made my behavior complete! ") I was just annoyed.
Cassie
In my heart, I think TTC should not be taken to then extent that many woman take it to. All this charting, checking CM ... it adds to the stress ... planning sex to make a baby ... shouldn't it be making love to make a baby? granted, it might take longer to get pregnant ... but a baby is about love for each other.
Now, if people have been trying 9 months plus, then all that charting IS great ... but again, it puts undue stress on the baby making.
PLUS, DHs do not have the emotional needs we do ... so that may inhibit there suport.
Hope my opinion doesn't mae too many people angry.
Yvonne
Then this weekend I mentioned the fact that we've been trying and haven't gotten pregnant yet and he says "well it must be you because there's nothing wrong with me". Talk about insensitive!! I want another baby in the worst way, but DH would be fine if we didn't have another, so it's really hard talk to him about any of this. I am sooooo glad that I have boards like this to vent on :-) He is really getting on my nerves at this point, especially with the whole not in the mood around ovulation time thing. Next month I'm not even going to tell him when I'm ovulating! Hang in there! There are a lot of us out here who can empathize with your situation.
Brandi
Diana 21 & Mike 21
Take Care,
Jen
TTC#1 C2.5 D5
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