I gotta ask-Is anyone NNTC b/c Dec due d

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I gotta ask-Is anyone NNTC b/c Dec due d
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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 7:54am
I'm just wondering. I'm thinking that December birthdays kinda suck for kids. No separation between X-mas and their birthday, so as a parent it's really important you make their day their own. I guess this question is really hovering for me since I'd have a due date of 12/24 if I got pg this month. My birthday was late November - so different enough from X-mas except for when visiting my godparents - they "lumped" everything together. I guess that always bugged me. I know for many that we all just want a little one that it doesn't matter when, but just wondering what everyone else's thoughts were just the same.
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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 8:07am
Well like you said the parents really have to make sure they make it a special time for the child. My DH bd is 12/22 and he gets forgotten every yr, granted he is 34 but still. His own mother doesn't call him and when we get together with his family for Christmas...he gets - Oh Yeah thats right..Happy Birthday from his mother & sisters. He said its been like that all his life...his birthday would be put off for a later date and most times he ended up with no party. If it does happen for us this month, I know I will make sure we celebrate their special day just like it was in a month with no holidays..lol Kim :o)C10, CD17
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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 8:07am
I used to think this was important. I had the month that my kids would be born all figured out. I wanted to keep it away from the birthdays already in the family and all that. I was in love with my due date of late feb, early march. BUT... that didn't work out. I don't think any of that matters anymore. You make your life. If having a birthday seperate from religious or political holidays is important then you can make that seperation.

I'm not going to put anything off to avoid that, and my due date would be 12/26 or so (difficult to figure out since I have no idea when I'd actualy ovulate if I even will.) Of course, our family doesn't celebrate Christmas so the date doesn't mean as much to us. Out extended family does though.

-Robyn

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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 9:14am
I have to agree it's all in how the parents make it work. Sure, parties can be hard to plan, but you can do them a week or two before to keep things separate. My DS was almost born 4 days before Christmas (pre-term), and ended up about 2 wks. after (still early). My DH and I usually make sure we take the decorations down before his birthday to help distinguish the two. However, having and EDD of 12/24 makes that hard. You could always not decorate one separate room (dining room maybe) with Christmas stuff and keep that for birthday decor and signs. This would help distinguish, and as long as you always make time each year to celebrate each separate, they'll never forget their birthday is special too. I hope this helps and wish you all the very best.
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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 9:24am
My Sis-In-Law's B-Day is Dec. 21st., and every year, we still have a day that we all go to my MIL's house and celebrate her birthday. And then we all get together again on Christmas Day. My DH says it's always been that way. My EDD will be 12/19 if everything went okay (let ya know in 2 wks!!!), and I hope that we can always keep the days separated and make each of them special.
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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 9:49am
We (well, I) originally didn't want to try this cycle at all because EDD would be 12/19 and knowing how 1st babies are often late, I wasn't sure I was comfortable with that. Early Dec. wouldn't have bothered me, but I had a childhood friend whose b-day is 12/20 and she always hated how her b-day was "forgotten" with all the holidays surrounding it.

After 4 cycles of disappointment, I couldn't stop trying....what if this is THE cycle? It's up to God when my angel will chose me and I didn't want to miss my chance!

~Sara

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 5:41pm
Have to agree, but thought I would not be too picky if it happened for me since I have been trying for so long. But DS was due 12/23 and thankful came 12/12. Its hard cuz they get everything once in the year than its up to you to buy them things throughout. Plus you always feel like buying them something cuz its been so long or man I bought them so much for x-mas or their bday. But I agree its so hard to seperate. I don't think he has really missed out from anyone except his Uncle. I know I am not sitting out next cycle and DH always gets ripped off in January. GL its so hard to decide.

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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 7:48pm
My due date for my second son was 12/27 and he actually came 12/19. DH and I did a great job at making his b-day "HIS". However other family members did not. : ( We don't live near family (we're in WA, they are in IL and MD). So of course they lumped his b-day and Christmas all together. It was sad that no one in DH's family called on DS's b-day but waited till Christmas to make ONE phone call. So sad. Anyway, I was born on Halloween and I HATE my b-day. I've NEVER been able to have a real b-day b/c of it. I was always trick or treating as a child, going to parties as a teen, and as an adult - I have kids to take out! LOL! DH and I are not going to start TTC until next cycle (so he says) just b/c we don't want two children born in December w/Christmas in there too. Besides my due date *if* I got PG would be 12/29! I have a habit of going a week early. That would make their b-day two days after Max's (roughly)! WOW!

LOL, I have strong feelings about this don't I? I guess I was just floored how family handled Max's b-day. Sadder still it was his FIRST b-day!!!!

Crystal, Nick (6/7/00) and Max (12/19/01)