I just wanted to clear something up
Find a Conversation
| Thu, 02-05-2009 - 3:07pm |
The other post "how bad of a person does this make me" I put it on a few different boards, I had a lot of negative responses. I just wanted to clear up that it is not something that I would actually do. It was just that the idea was put in my head, and I know that it isn't a good idea, but I cant seem to shake the thought. I would never have a baby thinking the other person didn't want it, or try to be sneaky about it. I got pregnant for Brooklyn bc her "dad" got me pregnant on purpose so I am fully aware of what I would be doing to someone. Although Brooklyn is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I'm grateful for it now, I wasn't when it happened.
I just wanted to say that it isn't something I would go through with. The plan part was actually all with finances and how we could work out buying the baby stuff through out the pregnancy. It had nothing to do with what my friend said that I should do.
The post was actually me asking if anyone had ever thought of anything like that, bc I actually felt bad even thinking about that. Some people understood that part and I got a lot of funny responses and people laughing saying it sounds like something they have thought about that before. Other people clearly didn't understand the message and thought that I was actually wanting to go through with it.
Another thing, we have talked about it. I suggested for us to use some sort of protection, and he said no, that he does want a baby. So we should be as careless as possible. If it happens now, then its a good thing. If it doesn't then we will start trying again.
Okay, I just wanted to clear that up!
-Lindsey && Brooklyn

~Kimberly~
-Lindsey && Brooklyn
-Lindsey && Brooklyn
~Kimberly~
I appreciate you taking the time to clarify your position a little bit more and I am glad that you talked to DH and are on the same page.
Hi Lindsay...
First off...after I read your other post...I laughed because I have totally felt like that before! lol
Secondly...no-one on this board should 'judge you'! These boards are for support and I think some women need to be reminded of that.
GL....
To be fair her post ASKED for a judgment call on her thought process/decision making process. If you don't want honest opinions on a decision, both positive and negative, don't ask the question. What I took from the post was the the OP was seriously considering this option and I felt strongly enough to reply. That is it. She is under no obligation to listen to me or anybody else.
To the OP I apologize if I misread your intentions in the post and hope that there are no hard feelings. It is sometimes difficult to convey one's meaning accurately in an electronic medium like a message board. I did not intend to be mean or spiteful but to honestly answer the question that you asked. I can only hope it is taken in that manner.
Thanks
Kristen
Edited 2/6/2009 8:27 pm ET by anesthesiagal