I need some advice on DH

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I need some advice on DH
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Thu, 07-24-2003 - 12:10am
Ok I'll start with the story, back in the beginning of Feb, My kids and I went to visit my mom in cali for a week. My DH stayed here to work. The day after he got back from taking me(couldn't afford for me to take myself) a girl from his work asked him out for drinks....and he went.(there was another guy there too.) at the bar, the girl got into a fight with another girl and my DH broke it up(he always tells me that I have to fight my own battles) well the three of them went to her house, my DH fell asleep in her bed...(which I guess in her living room) anyway...instead of sleeping on the floor...she crawled into bed with him...he tried to hid it, but the truth wided up coming out....(they didn't do anything so he says...) but I don't want him having anything to do with her except professionally at work...(he is a step above her) the other day he went through her line to buy some stuff(I should mention that DH works at a grocery/department store) I asked him not to do that again because I don't want him to have anything to do with her....He did it again tonight...my question is Do I have the right to be upset???

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Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:13pm


AMEN to that Susan!!
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Thu, 07-24-2003 - 10:37pm


honey, i'd be mad as all hell. i don't get why some men think its ok and other have some common sense. i'd do my DH some serious harm if he ever did that to me. i get mad when he jokes about me having someone on the side( i was so furious when he started that)i let him know how i felt when he joke like that. i get so irriated when he acts like he's gods gift to women, i put a swift end to that cr%^. i couldn't tolerate something like htat even if its a joke since i don't find it the least bit funny, i had problems with a guy i g=dated years before Dh that got mad if i hung out with a family freind who was a guy(that i'd known since i was 10.

make your mind known and if you have to this might not be hte best idea but go to his job and talk to his boss. i don't know what else to say but i hope things start looking better for you. just talk to hubby and keep a heavy object nearby so you can knock some sense into him afterwards.

lissa
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Fri, 07-25-2003 - 12:02am
Oh, hun, I hope you don't mind my two cents here-if I'm being honest I would say that I feel that you are too young and have too much of your life ahead of you to have to worry about this for the rest of your life. If I were you, I would tell my DH that he needs to find another job pronto and that if he ever does anything that even remotely resembles cheating again, he is out the door. I would follow through with this, and not just make it a threat. He should not even work with this woman anymore because of the strain on your marraige. I also agree that I would not be TTC with a man like that because I would be uneasy about his committment to me and my family. There are other men who won't behave this way. I am not trying to sound preachy, but my DH has never so much as stepped foot in a bar without me, and that's the way I like it. He is very respectful of my feelings, and he is quite aware that I will not take any s**t from him. I also know that he won't take any of that crap from me either, as his first wife cheated and left him. I am so very sorry you are going through this, and I hope I haven't offended you by being so straightforward. I wish you the very best.

Love and hugs,

Leanne

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