I want a BABY

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Registered: 04-08-2003
I want a BABY
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 5:47am
I have only been trying for 6 months and nothing is happening. I went off the pill in October and I started my period for the sixth time today. I have been taking the ovulation test and they show that I am ovulating, but I went to the doctor on my 22 day to have a progestrone level checked and she said it was an eight. The doctor wanted it to be a ten. So she wants me to come back so she can check it again later this month. I feel I can't wait that long. I want to start Clomid now! Then I think is there something wrong with my husband. There is nothing in our family history that would say that there is. I mean I have a period every month, but I know that does not mean I am ovulating. I feel I can't talk to anyone about my fears and anxiety. I can't sleep and I cry so much. I feel so jealous when others around me become pregnant but I am happy for them. I just don't understand why people who want a baby have to try and others who are not trying end up pregnant. Please send me some advice or the same concerns so I am not crazy!!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: mdj4110
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 6:29am
(((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) You're not crazy...what you are feeling is normal! Everyone here at some point has those feelings about others getting pg, etc. etc. etc.

To comfort you, I can tell you that six months isn't long (I know it feels long!). Unless you are over 35 or so, doctors usually aren't interested in doing any fertility treatments that soon. But if the dr. has said she'll do another test later this month, I think that sounds great! At least she sounds open and like she's actively helping you.

Do you have a reason to suspect that your dh has a fertility problem? If not, I would try not to let him think you think that (or maybe even if you have good reason to suspect that), because the pressure seems to get to a lot of guys, and if he thinks he has to perform well, or if he isn't confident he can, it will make matters go from bad to worse. This is just my 2 cents; I've seen lots of women post here about that problem.

Anyway, you have definitely come to the right place. The women here share the same kinds of ups and downs, fears, worries, hopes, and dreams. They are very understanding, very accepting, and very helpful. I hope you can make yourself at home here. It has helped me more than I can say, to have the support of other women who are TTC.

GL, and welcome to the board!

~Jolene

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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: mdj4110
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:29pm
Thank you for your sweet reply. It does make me feel better. I can feel my cramps but I haven't started bleeding yet. What is going on? AF was supposed to be here yesterday? It is great to know others are in the same boat.

Thanks Again,

md
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Registered: 04-03-2003
In reply to: mdj4110
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 3:21pm
Hi

I know it can be frustrating, but its good to check your hormone levels. Mine have been low and now I take progesterone which makes my whole gyn system work better. Plus if your levels are consistently low it can cause you to be unable to carry a pregnancy...so it would be good to find out. I know several women (inlaws) in my family have to take progesterone for the first several months of their pregnancy to make sure things go well, as will I most likely. But sometimes, being pregnant fixes it. Good luck trying and hopefully if there is a problem it can be solved easily!

marcella

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: mdj4110
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 3:48am
Just a thought...have you tried BBT charting? It might give you the feeling that you are doing more to help figure it all out. You know, then you've got a task to do each day. Some women find it makes them stress out more, but I don't have that problem, and I really like being able to see exactly what's going on, exactly when I o'd, exactly when my temp is dropping so I know AF is coming, etc. etc. If you haven't tried it, I suggest trying charting on Fertility Friend. It is free, and the program is really good. (Not perfect, of course...it *is* a computer program.)

HTH!

~Jolene

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Registered: 04-09-2003
In reply to: mdj4110
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 6:31am
hi there!!! it can take perfectl healthy couples several months to conceive,just becaue u havenbt fallen pregnant yet doesnt men there i aything wrong wit you or your hubby.try and relax more...hopefuly you wont b waiting much longer..i wish you all th luck in in the world
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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: mdj4110
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 10:18am
Thank you so much for all the support you have given me. AF came today, so I guess I am starting over again. I have used the BBT and charted but I need to get the correct themometer. I did not know about the Fertility Friend. My husband said he would go and get tested whenever to see if everything is o.k. Best wishes to you all:)

md