IDK.....

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IDK.....
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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 10:13am

So when DH and I discussed TTC we said that we were going to kind of take the easy road for a while or at least until we moved back to PGH. I am temping but thats mostly just to make sure that I am ovulating. Here is the problem. I can't just step half way into the TTC pool. It's all or nothing for me. I am already starting to obsess about everything. I want to make sure we are making our chances of getting pg the best they can be and I can not wait to have another little one around here. On the flip side I am still worried about DH finding a job in PGH before we have another baby. I havent told DH that I don't think I can do this half way yet just because we agreed to try it the "easy/natural" way first which was my idea mostly. I think I am worried that its going to take us a long time to conceive again and also that we are never going to get back to our family.

So frustrated.

Mandi

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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 11:26am

Hi Mandi!

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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 11:42am
OMG Sunshine you're hilarious!! That's so true. My husband and I decided I'd go off the pill and just wait til I get pregnant vs. actually "TTC." Little does he know I'm totally checking the calendar, reading message boards and googling stuff. He'd think I was such a weirdo. But the good part is, he doesn't really know when my period is due. He knows the basic time of the month (end of the month) but not the day, so he's not asking me if I'm late or stressing me out.
So Mandi, I think the lesson to the story here is, pretend you're going along with the "try halfway" deal (because really, how do you try "halfway") but do what the rest of us do, and check you calendar and secretly take tests and do all the crazy nit picking at your body that we can't help but do, and make sure you seduce your husband into bed at the right time, just don't tell him it's because you checked the calendar, or because you have good cervical mucus, lol. That way, he'll feel like you aren't stressing about ttc, but you'll be giving yourself a good chance every month.
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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 12:06pm

That is so funny, maybebaby2012!!

I bet my husband WISHES he didn't know all of this TTC stuff, he knows how my CM is for the day, what CD I'm on, when AF is supposed to come, etc, etc.....haha. But all in all, I'm almost positive he'd rather be "tricked" and seduced on the right days. haha.

Eh, I don't think it would hurt him to 'nudge' him on the right days. haha :smileywink:

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Wed, 09-28-2011 - 1:25pm
Men just don't get it like we do! I love when I say to my DB "hey, wanna see what my chart looks like?!" and the response I usually get is "okay" *blank stare*. That's what we're here for! We'll obsess over all the TTC stuff right along with you, so you don't have to feel like you're driving DH nuts. How you're feeling is totally normal.
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Thu, 09-29-2011 - 5:01pm

We have no idea when we will be moving. DH got transferred up here for his job and its unlikely that he will be transferred back any time soon so he is looking for a new job. Its really hard with the economy the way it is but I would much rather be close to my family and friends when we do have another baby. I know that I can survive with out them but I would prefer not to if at all possible. Also this is gonna sound funny but I really want to have the same drs with every pregnancy. I know it doesn't matter as long as you are comfortable with the dr you have but I was really comfortable with the drs I had in PGH.

DH doesn't really know my cycle until I tell him that he has to stop and get me tampons from the store on his way home. Hehe! I guess really at this point with my crazy cycles neither one of us as a really good idea when I am ovulating but based on when we were TTCing before we have an idea of what days to focus on. I do try to make him aware because he occasionally works long hours and goes to bed shortly after getting home so I want him to be prepared I guess.

Our whole idea this time was to not make it feel like it was a "job" and something that could just be enjoyed. After this month if we don't conceive I hope I have a little better idea of how my cycles are going. So we shall see.

Mandi

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