"Issues" with DH

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"Issues" with DH
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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 3:08pm
I know TTC is stressful, but what do you do when DH can't complete the deed?
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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 3:10pm
I can relate. I think I'm wearing DH out with this too. My doc said every day should be no issue for a man until he is 40 and then maybe every other. Ha!



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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 3:16pm
Im sorry your having to deal with this... its just adding to your stress but some men cant perform "on demand" and I know that my DH some times has a problem with staying hard... either just being too tired or just feels like he's being used for TTC. It happens, and the next time that it happens... if you make your DH feel bad about it... he wont be able to perform at all that night cause it makes him feel bad but if you just talk him through it and turn him on then you might be able to snap him out of it!
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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 3:22pm
Perhaps you shouldn't tell him when its time?

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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 3:31pm
The funny thing is I never tell him when its time and he doesn't ask.
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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 3:35pm

getting all worked up over it just won't help. To push the issue will probably make him feel bad and then it will be awkward. It really is best to try and let it go. i have been TTC for 20 mos... so trust me, there is always next month. You will be preggers soon enough. You don't "have" to do it every day, or every other day, and you don't want to suck all the fun out of sex either. So i know it's frusturating, but your timing is probably fine, and it's no biggie. If you have VIP FF go on and see if you can search charts with the same timing of yours (pregnancy charts that is) to lift your spirits.



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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 5:59pm
I have to ask- how do you know it was the 3 AM and not the 7 PM BD that gave you your first child?
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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 6:44pm
We obviously don't, its just always been our joke that after 10 months of trying we conceived her when I was half asleep!

Kim


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Sun, 11-09-2008 - 8:13pm

Hi Kim, it happened to me for the first time ever this month...We BD 2 days before O and the day after, we tried the night of O and he coudnt finish and we tried the next morning and he coudnt finish AGAIN so I feel like I dont have a good chance this month..see my chart...when is the last time you BD?


I think mine is starting to feel the pressure since its been 10 months. I was kinda mad and dissapointed when it happened and then I realized I shouldnt have. But you know, when you wait after this all month!! They just dont understand what we go through..


Hope you still caught the egg...Ive seen charts with BD up to 4 days before O and getting pregnant. The gender determination board gives me hope :)

 

Hélène

TTC #2

On a TTC break!<

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Mon, 11-10-2008 - 5:30am
Thanks Helene, that made me feel better!!
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