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| Wed, 09-24-2003 - 4:26pm |
I don't mind answering at all. I feel like there are several things I can say but don't know where to begin.
To start, Jason and I had been married for 3.5yrs, but I was still only 22 when we started TTC. (Keep that in you mind.)
So - I went off BCP (which I had been on for 4 yrs) and waited the recommended 3 months before TTC (using condoms for those 3 months.) When we started trying, I was like an ignorant child. I was very sheltered as a child, my mom NEVER talked to me about my body or my cycle and I was just taught and told by the public school systems that if you have unprotected sex you'll get pregnant.
So, I thought we'd get pregnat just from having unprotected sex. I had no idea I even HAD a cycle (even though I knew I had my period every 28 days.) I didn't know that the CM MEANT anything.. heck, I didn't even know it was called CM! Anything a woman NEEDS to know about TTC - I didn't know.
By C6, I still was not pregnant and was really getting depressed in a big way! (Also remember, I was only 22, so NONE of my friends were even CLOSE to TTC. I'm years ahead of most of my friends on marriage and children, so I had NO friends to ask.) I began doing some minor research and realized there was more to TTC than just unprotected sex (at least for me... some women are lucky and should be GRATEFUL!!!)
By C9 - 3 months after "knowing" how to TTC, I was pregnant... FINALLY! At 9 weeks I m/c'd. I was DEVISTATED! Besides being raped (which I don't mind saying AT ALL because I firmly believe God has allowed me to use that as my testimony to help young teenage girls.) that was the absolute worst emotional pain I had ever felt in my life. I was a wreck. I had to wait 2 months before I could TTC again.
On C3 of TTC again, I was pregnant. At 5 wks pg, I m/c'd AGAIN! Devistated again! The following month, (we decided NOT to wait this time) I was pregnant again!
We went in at 5wks 6 days and there was no heartbeat. I absolutely lost it! I balled so hard in the u/s room. My doctor and DH just held me for a long time. After I calmed down, my DR told me that the HB usually does not come until 6 wks gestation and the u/s had put me at 5 wks 4 days. He wanted me to come back in 3 days.
I went back, praying, praying, praying and SO nervous! At exactly 6 wks, we saw my DS's HB! It was amazing! I ended up carrying him almost to term (35 wks, because I got extremely sick from Pre-Eclampsia and my liver and kidney's began to fail. They had to take him by emergency c-cestion.)
So, from beginning to end it was 19 months. A LONG LONG LONG 19 months. Had I not gotten pregnant, I was due to see a specialist in 2 wks, thankfully we found out I was pregnant.
So, to answer your question, I did not need anything. However, they are thinking there is a problem. Just 2 months ago, I went through my 3rd m/c. They are beginning to believe there is a problem with my horomone levels. 3 m/c's 19 mos the first time and now on C4 this time...
I think there is a problem as well, but I guess I'll find out in about a month or so.
I'm sorry this got so long. I hope I answered your questions. And don't worry, I don't mind talking about it at all. I'm am SO grateful for the 2 babies I do have, and the 3 I have in heaven!
GL to you! I pray it happens for you VERY SOON!!!
Bethanee TTC3 C4 CD6

Have a great day Jen!
Bethanee ttc3 c4 cd7
sorry everyone. I just spent a lot of time writing it, so I want to make sure she knew I answered her and that she gets it!
Bethanee ttc3 c4 cd7
((((hugs)))) Thank you so much for sharing. It sounds like you have been through so much. I hope you are blessed with a BFP soon. It seems so ironic...in sex ed (or if our parents had the talk) it seems so easy to get prg. and here we all are trying and trying to no avail. Deep inside I believe that God will bless us when the time is right, but don't you think he should just tell us how long we have to wait? Out of everyone I know that has children or is pregnant I am the only one who has tried more than 6 months (which is why I asked you to share) so I worry that something may be wrong even though logically I know it can be perfectly normal to take a few months.
Thanks again for sharing (and for bumping the message so I could find it!) I wish you the best of luck!
((((((hugs)))))))
Jen